Experience #3 - Misunderstandings + High Emotions + Grudges = Shutdown (Part 1)
TW: Mild emotional and verbal abuse
Early 2008 (or was it late 2007?), I met a young woman online who was a couple of years younger than me through a J-Rock roleplaying community on GreatestJournal. We got to talking and we were doing fine. When she criticized about how I was roleplaying a certain J-rocker, I took it pretty well, but I also wished she told me how to improve (since I was a new fan to a J-Rock band called Nightmare at the time). So in a way, I'm glad we didn't RP together (nor did I ask her again), even now. We continued to talk about some other things, though I think she's wrong for calling me a newbie to J-Rock when I have been listening to it for several years.
As getting to know each other progressed, things fell short real fast when I said something that triggered her. I really didn't mean any harm by it, but she ended up biting my head off and basically messaged a long paragraph to me about what had happened to her in the past and comparing it to the stereotypes that relate to the Emo trend. I have sincerely apologized to her twice, but fell on deaf ears. What really made me mad and temporarily block her was what she called me after I signed back on to AIM: She called me a dick. I was about to go on a raging tangent on her behind, but decided to avoid talking to her and commenting on her journal entries to cool off until she talks to me with a cool head as well. Also, I wanted her to apologize to me for calling me names.
When I told a couple of my friends about it, they simply told me that I wasn't going to get one. They were absolutely right after waiting for the entire year. Not only did she invalidate both of my apologies, she invalidated my sincerity as well. I did write a very long and very angry rant about her in a private journal entry near the end of the year after she unfriended me, and I will still keep it private by the way. I wasn't even mad for the reasons she stated for unfriending me. I was more angry at the fact she didn't apologize. In that entry, I went all out and said a few choice words about her just to let it all out of my system...but from the long trail of comments I've read, it turns out that she had pissed off several other people from incidents unrelated to mine.
Sometime after reading them, she later deleted the comments, which tells me more about her personality. I came to accept the she's a horrible person. There. I said it. Unfortunately, it makes me sad and sorry that I ever met her. So I'm taking responsibility for that decision.
To be fair, this did happen over a decade ago. So I do hope that she has changed---and grew up---for the better over the years. I also hope that she has stopped holding grudges, biting people's heads off when it comes to a person saying things who meant no harm by it, and started using her head more.
I won't say more about this ever again, for I am now over it.
Early 2008 (or was it late 2007?), I met a young woman online who was a couple of years younger than me through a J-Rock roleplaying community on GreatestJournal. We got to talking and we were doing fine. When she criticized about how I was roleplaying a certain J-rocker, I took it pretty well, but I also wished she told me how to improve (since I was a new fan to a J-Rock band called Nightmare at the time). So in a way, I'm glad we didn't RP together (nor did I ask her again), even now. We continued to talk about some other things, though I think she's wrong for calling me a newbie to J-Rock when I have been listening to it for several years.
As getting to know each other progressed, things fell short real fast when I said something that triggered her. I really didn't mean any harm by it, but she ended up biting my head off and basically messaged a long paragraph to me about what had happened to her in the past and comparing it to the stereotypes that relate to the Emo trend. I have sincerely apologized to her twice, but fell on deaf ears. What really made me mad and temporarily block her was what she called me after I signed back on to AIM: She called me a dick. I was about to go on a raging tangent on her behind, but decided to avoid talking to her and commenting on her journal entries to cool off until she talks to me with a cool head as well. Also, I wanted her to apologize to me for calling me names.
When I told a couple of my friends about it, they simply told me that I wasn't going to get one. They were absolutely right after waiting for the entire year. Not only did she invalidate both of my apologies, she invalidated my sincerity as well. I did write a very long and very angry rant about her in a private journal entry near the end of the year after she unfriended me, and I will still keep it private by the way. I wasn't even mad for the reasons she stated for unfriending me. I was more angry at the fact she didn't apologize. In that entry, I went all out and said a few choice words about her just to let it all out of my system...but from the long trail of comments I've read, it turns out that she had pissed off several other people from incidents unrelated to mine.
Sometime after reading them, she later deleted the comments, which tells me more about her personality. I came to accept the she's a horrible person. There. I said it. Unfortunately, it makes me sad and sorry that I ever met her. So I'm taking responsibility for that decision.
To be fair, this did happen over a decade ago. So I do hope that she has changed---and grew up---for the better over the years. I also hope that she has stopped holding grudges, biting people's heads off when it comes to a person saying things who meant no harm by it, and started using her head more.
I won't say more about this ever again, for I am now over it.