Drama-free zone please!!!
I posted a blog on Myspace tonight which I'm sure will leave anyone who reads it horribly confused. And it left me unsatisfied...because I couldn't really say what I wanted to say knowing that people might read it who probably shouldn't. This is my safe blog. i know who reads it, and, more importantly, I know who doesn't.
Here's the thing that really bothers me. Charlie and I have been together for over four years now. For most of that time, we have lived a fairly drama-free existence. Granted there have been a couple of issues with my parents that have caused issues and one issue that we now refer to as "The Situation" which caused a significant amount of drama for a few weeks. For the most part, though, we have worked really hard at maintaining a drama-free existence.
In high school and even through some of college, I was one of those girls that really thrived on drama, but I have actually grown now to the point that I absolutely cannot stand to be around it. I will make exceptions for extremely close friends who are going through a tough time. However, people who never seem to have anything to talk about except for drama...well they are just kind of exhausting to me now. I would very much prefer my boring life of coming home, having dinner, cleaning the kitchen and settling in to watch TV or a movie, or going bowling with just my husband, or going to the mall with my husband, etc. to spending my weekends in bars and at parties, getting drunk out of my mind, getting into fights with girls who flirted with my guy, etc. I just don't have the energy to try to keep up with it, or really even pretend like I care anymore. I understand that some people haven't reached that time in their life yet. Some people still enjoy the bar/party scene where there is always something exciting going on. That's fine. That's your personal choice. If you want drama in your life, then by all means, go out and find out.
Here's where it becomes a problem. Please don't drag me into it with you! I don't need an update every time we talk about your current relationship drama. Do you really have nothing else in your life to talk about? Even worse, please don't try to make your drama about me and Charlie! We aren't perfect. We have never claimed to be! But when we screw up, offend you in some way doesn't it make more sense to just say something about it? I understand that Charlie can be intimidating sometimes, but what is your excuse with me? I do not wish to be a plot line in the ongoing soap opera of your life. I would very much prefer for you to deal with me directly please!
I know it looks like that's exactly what I'm doing but the difference is that you will never read this, and I know that for a fact. Also, we are going to have a talk about this.
I couldn't possibly imagine that such a small age difference could really become this apparant!
Ok, that's my rant. I hate it that it's dramatic and also about how I hate drama but I'm really upset about this because I don't want people bringing drama into my life right when I have it just where I want it!
Here's the thing that really bothers me. Charlie and I have been together for over four years now. For most of that time, we have lived a fairly drama-free existence. Granted there have been a couple of issues with my parents that have caused issues and one issue that we now refer to as "The Situation" which caused a significant amount of drama for a few weeks. For the most part, though, we have worked really hard at maintaining a drama-free existence.
In high school and even through some of college, I was one of those girls that really thrived on drama, but I have actually grown now to the point that I absolutely cannot stand to be around it. I will make exceptions for extremely close friends who are going through a tough time. However, people who never seem to have anything to talk about except for drama...well they are just kind of exhausting to me now. I would very much prefer my boring life of coming home, having dinner, cleaning the kitchen and settling in to watch TV or a movie, or going bowling with just my husband, or going to the mall with my husband, etc. to spending my weekends in bars and at parties, getting drunk out of my mind, getting into fights with girls who flirted with my guy, etc. I just don't have the energy to try to keep up with it, or really even pretend like I care anymore. I understand that some people haven't reached that time in their life yet. Some people still enjoy the bar/party scene where there is always something exciting going on. That's fine. That's your personal choice. If you want drama in your life, then by all means, go out and find out.
Here's where it becomes a problem. Please don't drag me into it with you! I don't need an update every time we talk about your current relationship drama. Do you really have nothing else in your life to talk about? Even worse, please don't try to make your drama about me and Charlie! We aren't perfect. We have never claimed to be! But when we screw up, offend you in some way doesn't it make more sense to just say something about it? I understand that Charlie can be intimidating sometimes, but what is your excuse with me? I do not wish to be a plot line in the ongoing soap opera of your life. I would very much prefer for you to deal with me directly please!
I know it looks like that's exactly what I'm doing but the difference is that you will never read this, and I know that for a fact. Also, we are going to have a talk about this.
I couldn't possibly imagine that such a small age difference could really become this apparant!
Ok, that's my rant. I hate it that it's dramatic and also about how I hate drama but I'm really upset about this because I don't want people bringing drama into my life right when I have it just where I want it!