I suppose I have never been too upset about the "groupie" definition. I found that no matter how I define myself, people will think what they will based on what they assume- or what some people have gossiped out of jealousy or for whatever reason. I've been able to rid myself of 99% of the drama that came with certain people or certain bands and it makes shows more fun.
In some cases, I was a fan first and a friend later. In the cases of some bands, it was as a friend who at least supported the dream and respected the expression, even if it didn't appeal to me.
Did I hang out a lot? Yes. Did I ever hook up? I'm human and yea, things can happen between adults who are attracted to one another, especially as the years progress. For one particular guy, we had a fun friends-with-benefits thing that extended over a few years and we accepted it for what it was and were mature enough to be happy for one another when we found someone we wanted to date exclusively.
Was it ever my goal to hook up at a show? No. Did it ever make or break my night? No, because it was never expected. I was there for the music, there to see people I enjoyed being around, or both. I wasn't one of those with a goal of doing ANYTHING to meet someone, or wouldn't be happy unless I did someone. I never did anything I was against to get anything...and when it was asked of me to act a certain way or remove clothing, I left. It's about FUN, not power and control.
Some shows I will see only because people I know are working with the band or will be there, and I'd rather spend time with those people than than pay attention to the music. I showed up at Metal Sludge events for the people I'd get to see, not the music I'd hear. Otherwise, I'm perfectly content to sit in the crowd, be one of the masses, and have a good time with the people I went there with.
I admit with Mushroomhead, I have a low tolerance of the few and far between people who want to create drama between the band and anyone in "the family". Then again, our stance with that is "the more the merrier" and we welcome new members and don't view them as newbies or less important, there's no competition. There were several people who ran fanpages for members who started drama, and the band nipped it in the bud quick and basically said that if it continues, the fan pages were done or would have new moderators. End of story.
I will never understand those fans... irregardless of their intentions with the band... who view everything as a competition and think they can only get in if someone else is driven away/leaves. It's music. It's supposed to be FUN.
In some cases, I was a fan first and a friend later. In the cases of some bands, it was as a friend who at least supported the dream and respected the expression, even if it didn't appeal to me.
Did I hang out a lot? Yes. Did I ever hook up? I'm human and yea, things can happen between adults who are attracted to one another, especially as the years progress. For one particular guy, we had a fun friends-with-benefits thing that extended over a few years and we accepted it for what it was and were mature enough to be happy for one another when we found someone we wanted to date exclusively.
Was it ever my goal to hook up at a show? No. Did it ever make or break my night? No, because it was never expected. I was there for the music, there to see people I enjoyed being around, or both. I wasn't one of those with a goal of doing ANYTHING to meet someone, or wouldn't be happy unless I did someone. I never did anything I was against to get anything...and when it was asked of me to act a certain way or remove clothing, I left. It's about FUN, not power and control.
Some shows I will see only because people I know are working with the band or will be there, and I'd rather spend time with those people than than pay attention to the music. I showed up at Metal Sludge events for the people I'd get to see, not the music I'd hear. Otherwise, I'm perfectly content to sit in the crowd, be one of the masses, and have a good time with the people I went there with.
I admit with Mushroomhead, I have a low tolerance of the few and far between people who want to create drama between the band and anyone in "the family". Then again, our stance with that is "the more the merrier" and we welcome new members and don't view them as newbies or less important, there's no competition. There were several people who ran fanpages for members who started drama, and the band nipped it in the bud quick and basically said that if it continues, the fan pages were done or would have new moderators. End of story.
I will never understand those fans... irregardless of their intentions with the band... who view everything as a competition and think they can only get in if someone else is driven away/leaves. It's music. It's supposed to be FUN.
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Yeah I never understood those fans either. It's supposed to be FUN, nothing more!
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