the icon is just wishful thinking
Im studying for a metabolic biochemistry test right now. I've been studying all week, really for at least three or four hours a day, because this is my only midterm for this class and the only thing my grade is based on except for the final, and i still feel like i know nothing. my teacher is one of those people who knows way too much about this
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You sound a lot like me and Dave, around August right before we broke up (for the first time ha). He was going to bars like 3 times a week and I said it was ruining our relationship. He at first said I don't care and later tried to change but kept doing it anyway. Finally he did stop and I know we had a million other issues but I was trying to relate me to you haha. I failed I know.
Anyway. I know you're really sad and that you want it to work but sometimes you just have to call it for what it is. I think you would regret it more if you let it drag on and ruined any chance of keeping a friendship. You obviously see that it's not working and that it's basically already over - he's lied to you over and over and you cry a lot...probably not the best signs. You tried hard to make it work, you gave ultimatums, you dealt with his family, you did everything you could. But sometimes, there's just nothing left to do. It's completely up to him now and he's just not taking the responsibility and I don't think you want to be with someone like that.
I do agree though, that it'd be easier to stay together until you moved. I think as soon as I get there and you have a friend to hang out with you'll get out a lot more (and believe me, I'll be ready to go out on the town!) you'll see that it is possible to have a life without David. Ummm I'm trying to remember what else you said about that...but yeah, I think you've done all you can do and you've endured enough drama and bad things related to David and as hard as it is (and I know, I mean, if you had said this to me 3 months ago I would have said no way, I'm making it work, and heck if I wasn't moving away I probably would be saying the same), you just have to call it for what it is and start moving on. You deserve much better (and so do I so we can try to heal together!), and I want my best friend to be happy!
Just try to get through the next couple months and maybe start distancing yourself now, and sit down with him later, maybe once you're all moved in and don't have to see him every day, and say that it's not working. And he might try to save it and make you more empty promises about quitting but you just have to be strong and remind yourself of what he's put you through and the lies he told you and how little fun you've been having the last few months with him.
I'm so sorry if that is absolutely horrible of me to say but I really wish someone had said it to me a long time ago because then at least the idea would have been in my head. ♥
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Do you have any other friends that aren't also David's friends? There's one way of distancing yourself, hanging out with them and not David.
I wish you the best of luck. ♥
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