Wanda was the first person that Donna met in the City, so arguably Donna just imprinted on her like a baby duck. (...just had to get that out of the way.) Their friendship is very sweet to me, in a very broken kind of a way; Donna really truly loves Wanda so much, she has a lot of respect and admiration for her. There was a scene once where Donna speculated on how she could probably get away with murder there, and it wasn't the possibility of not getting away with it that concerned her most, it was...the idea of disappointing Wanda.
So, obviously Donna has lacked, in the past, for positive female role models and maternal figures; Wanda, being suddenly both of these for her, is now the person that Donna really wants to make proud. On the other hand, it's not a case of pure and blind hero worship - which is why to Donna it's so important a connection, really, because they're actually friends, and inasmuch as Donna is capable of this she has a fairly realistic view, rather than an idealized image. Wanda's struggles with mental illness are something that Donna can identify with, even if she's...frequently not all that good or enthusiastic about articulating those kind of things. (Donna previously suffered clinical depression, basically, and for a while lived in fear of developing PPD after Sirja was born; she's also spent more or less her entire life dealing with the fall out of her father's inconsistently treated bipolar.)
Donna trusts Wanda about as close to implicitly as she can get - she can't, really, trust implicitly, but she wants very badly to be able to do that, and the people who get close to it are veryyyyy important to her. She's always a little bit afraid of being abandoned, so when Cityfolk started showing up in the nexus and stuck around, and stayed with her, that was a significantly bigger deal than she even let on. Obviously she was not subtle about how thrilled she was, or even how relieved, but yeah.
Other than the serious business (there is much business, and much of it is serious), they are hilarious buddies who do hilarious things and Donna knows you enable her, Wanda, don't even pretend. She misses her girls something bad, but it's a lot easier when she also has Wanda, now.
Wanda was the first person that Donna met in the City, so arguably Donna just imprinted on her like a baby duck. (...just had to get that out of the way.) Their friendship is very sweet to me, in a very broken kind of a way; Donna really truly loves Wanda so much, she has a lot of respect and admiration for her. There was a scene once where Donna speculated on how she could probably get away with murder there, and it wasn't the possibility of not getting away with it that concerned her most, it was...the idea of disappointing Wanda.
So, obviously Donna has lacked, in the past, for positive female role models and maternal figures; Wanda, being suddenly both of these for her, is now the person that Donna really wants to make proud. On the other hand, it's not a case of pure and blind hero worship - which is why to Donna it's so important a connection, really, because they're actually friends, and inasmuch as Donna is capable of this she has a fairly realistic view, rather than an idealized image. Wanda's struggles with mental illness are something that Donna can identify with, even if she's...frequently not all that good or enthusiastic about articulating those kind of things. (Donna previously suffered clinical depression, basically, and for a while lived in fear of developing PPD after Sirja was born; she's also spent more or less her entire life dealing with the fall out of her father's inconsistently treated bipolar.)
Donna trusts Wanda about as close to implicitly as she can get - she can't, really, trust implicitly, but she wants very badly to be able to do that, and the people who get close to it are veryyyyy important to her. She's always a little bit afraid of being abandoned, so when Cityfolk started showing up in the nexus and stuck around, and stayed with her, that was a significantly bigger deal than she even let on. Obviously she was not subtle about how thrilled she was, or even how relieved, but yeah.
Other than the serious business (there is much business, and much of it is serious), they are hilarious buddies who do hilarious things and Donna knows you enable her, Wanda, don't even pretend. She misses her girls something bad, but it's a lot easier when she also has Wanda, now.
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