Things become more clear...
I seem to have hit upon a revelation. Most of the friends that I have continued to talk to and deemed friends are only friends of convenience. To me that means that they are only friends to me when it is convenient to them. Some of the characteristics of a friend of convenience are that they rarely come to your house, and if they are there you can count on a story that involves them having to leave quickly. Another sign is when you are moving, and suddenly all you get are voicemails. Or 'ofcourse I'll help' and then cancel a few days before.
I think some more signs could be stated as when they become involved in a relationship and you are thrown to the side. Either completely ignored, or forced to do everything as part of a threesome, never ever getting to see your friend by themselves again. Nice proof of this is when confronting said friends about the situation only to be told that you are being too sensitive.
Also, the phone apparently works both ways. I have stopped calling the people who don't call me, or who never call me back after I leave a bunch of messges. Often I hear "well you never call me anymore" when I go through my bouts of this. The next time I hear this I'm going to ask that person why they never bothered to pick up their phone to call ME?
I guess my move to north tacoma will free me of all the friends of convenience that I have since they rarely come to see me in Parkland, I know that they aren't going to come see me there. This makes me sad as I have just realized that these are the same people that everysingle time they have ever needed anything from me I have dropped what I was doing to help them.
So now I have the quest of making new friends. I am not even sure how to go about doing that in a new area. Maybe I am going to end up married to my computer after all.
As I am moving this week I have FINALLY just about gotten everything in my room packed up. I'll most likely be moving most of it myself because I gave up and started dumping things into crates as well as boxes, and left clothes in laundry baskets :)
Miracle upon miracles my car is also clean now so that I may start to transport my stuff to the new apartment tomorrow when I get the keys. Now I am off to a nap because I have been working on all this crap since 7 a.m.
I think some more signs could be stated as when they become involved in a relationship and you are thrown to the side. Either completely ignored, or forced to do everything as part of a threesome, never ever getting to see your friend by themselves again. Nice proof of this is when confronting said friends about the situation only to be told that you are being too sensitive.
Also, the phone apparently works both ways. I have stopped calling the people who don't call me, or who never call me back after I leave a bunch of messges. Often I hear "well you never call me anymore" when I go through my bouts of this. The next time I hear this I'm going to ask that person why they never bothered to pick up their phone to call ME?
I guess my move to north tacoma will free me of all the friends of convenience that I have since they rarely come to see me in Parkland, I know that they aren't going to come see me there. This makes me sad as I have just realized that these are the same people that everysingle time they have ever needed anything from me I have dropped what I was doing to help them.
So now I have the quest of making new friends. I am not even sure how to go about doing that in a new area. Maybe I am going to end up married to my computer after all.
As I am moving this week I have FINALLY just about gotten everything in my room packed up. I'll most likely be moving most of it myself because I gave up and started dumping things into crates as well as boxes, and left clothes in laundry baskets :)
Miracle upon miracles my car is also clean now so that I may start to transport my stuff to the new apartment tomorrow when I get the keys. Now I am off to a nap because I have been working on all this crap since 7 a.m.