In which I talk about virginity of a kind, abuse capslock
So I was watching the Duggars, you know, because I like punishing myself, and the "wedding" episode came on. If you are unfamiliar with the Duggars, the gist is that everything that they hold dear and true terrifies me to the point of near panic. Don't get me wrong now, they seem like very sweet people, but everything from their personal moral choices to the way they dress just feels WRONG to me.
Anyway, long story short, the show is the wedding of the first son of the 18-kid strong Duggar brood, who gets married at 20 and shares his FIRST KISS (EVER) as his wedding kiss with his blushing virgin bride.
And a question popped into my head. I mean, as if it weren't bad enough to have your first kiss in front of a wedding service of 300 people, your ENTIRE FAMILY and the ARMY that is your new husband's family...
...what if the first penis you saw was on your wedding night?
Now I'm sure this girl's changed diapers (her family is apparently of a similar mindset as the Duggar guy, although not as stupidly numerous) for male siblings and family members. So I'm sure she's aware of the concept of a penis. But there's a SUBSTANTIAL difference in changing a diaper and seeing your new husband for the first time, flushed and erect, et cetera et cetera insert purple prose here.
I'm gonna blather more on this tomorrow later, but I want to open this for discussion. This is beyond* just "oh I'm saving myself for marriage." Everyone I know who's done or is doing that has still at least SEEN the active sexual genitals of another adult person, even if they just got flashed or something casual like that. We're talking a fundamental lack of, heh, exposure.
* The groom said to his father during his wedding day birds-and-bees talk, "I understand the concept of [sex]." To which is father, the father of 17 other children, could only chuckle nervously and reply, "It's kinda like Legos." See why I'm scared?
Anyway, long story short, the show is the wedding of the first son of the 18-kid strong Duggar brood, who gets married at 20 and shares his FIRST KISS (EVER) as his wedding kiss with his blushing virgin bride.
And a question popped into my head. I mean, as if it weren't bad enough to have your first kiss in front of a wedding service of 300 people, your ENTIRE FAMILY and the ARMY that is your new husband's family...
...what if the first penis you saw was on your wedding night?
Now I'm sure this girl's changed diapers (her family is apparently of a similar mindset as the Duggar guy, although not as stupidly numerous) for male siblings and family members. So I'm sure she's aware of the concept of a penis. But there's a SUBSTANTIAL difference in changing a diaper and seeing your new husband for the first time, flushed and erect, et cetera et cetera insert purple prose here.
I'm gonna blather more on this tomorrow later, but I want to open this for discussion. This is beyond* just "oh I'm saving myself for marriage." Everyone I know who's done or is doing that has still at least SEEN the active sexual genitals of another adult person, even if they just got flashed or something casual like that. We're talking a fundamental lack of, heh, exposure.
* The groom said to his father during his wedding day birds-and-bees talk, "I understand the concept of [sex]." To which is father, the father of 17 other children, could only chuckle nervously and reply, "It's kinda like Legos." See why I'm scared?