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So I've been chatting with a few gentlemen that have found me on match.com. It's been interesting.
One guy, a 23-year-old 'Nova law student, has seemed very interested in me and in meeting me in the brief time we've spoken. And seeing as he's not over 45, obese or deformed, he automatically falls into the top 10 percent of guys on the site.
He's insisting that I seem smart and interesting and "chill" (he went so far as to call me intellectually curious in the e-mail he sent), but all he wants to talk about currently is sex. He wants all the details and doesn't give me a chance to ask any questions back. He wants to meet for a drink and then asks if we can come back here and fool around.
I tell him I don't think it's going to work out that way already. I've already decided that I don't want to rush into anything physical with anybody anymore -- it only ends in my heartbreak when I do. And I tell him this, I want to get to know him without the pressure of expectation. He says he doesn't want sex, and would my car be ok?
I tell him I don't want to do that either. I reiterate that when I say I don't want to rush into anything physical, I mean basically anything. I'm not prude, not in my mind.
Well, how long until I'll take my top off for him? Two or three dates I say, time and circumstances permitting.
That's prude, he says.
I am appalled. I'm totally put off. Oh, and then he tops it off by assuming I've been having sex with all of these guys that have hurt me in the past. And you can bet your ass I chewed him out for that.
How dare he? Two or three dates is still pretty damn easy of me, I think. And I'm doing this to AVOID heartbreak, not to CAUSE it. What the fuck am I STILL doing wrong?
One guy, a 23-year-old 'Nova law student, has seemed very interested in me and in meeting me in the brief time we've spoken. And seeing as he's not over 45, obese or deformed, he automatically falls into the top 10 percent of guys on the site.
He's insisting that I seem smart and interesting and "chill" (he went so far as to call me intellectually curious in the e-mail he sent), but all he wants to talk about currently is sex. He wants all the details and doesn't give me a chance to ask any questions back. He wants to meet for a drink and then asks if we can come back here and fool around.
I tell him I don't think it's going to work out that way already. I've already decided that I don't want to rush into anything physical with anybody anymore -- it only ends in my heartbreak when I do. And I tell him this, I want to get to know him without the pressure of expectation. He says he doesn't want sex, and would my car be ok?
I tell him I don't want to do that either. I reiterate that when I say I don't want to rush into anything physical, I mean basically anything. I'm not prude, not in my mind.
Well, how long until I'll take my top off for him? Two or three dates I say, time and circumstances permitting.
That's prude, he says.
I am appalled. I'm totally put off. Oh, and then he tops it off by assuming I've been having sex with all of these guys that have hurt me in the past. And you can bet your ass I chewed him out for that.
How dare he? Two or three dates is still pretty damn easy of me, I think. And I'm doing this to AVOID heartbreak, not to CAUSE it. What the fuck am I STILL doing wrong?