The pre-30 Weed-Out

[sagesephiroth]

Some people may already know what the
title means. For those who don't... as one
ages and experiences life, it seems your
teens-20's are all about finding out who
you are. As most get closer to 30, once
the self has been established, the rest
comes - others.

Comments

[rageofwinter]

It's always good to set some time to decide who is really worth having in your life, otherwise those people will just drag you down in the end, and you of all people certainly don't want that. If you're going to exert any kind of energy, it should be toward something you want.

And I would have to say that YOU are the most important part of my life as well, and that also means that everything in my life also revolves around you, mein liebe. Everything and everyone, aside from family, comes second. But of course you are included in that whole "family" bit... especially if we ever...

One DOES need to acknolwedge the good someone has done for them, although you might have to question why... But you also have to acknowledge when someone has changed and just isn't right for you anymore. I think it will make your life and everyone around you much happier.

And I agree... you really do need trust in a friendship, and especially relationship. Everything else comes second.
"I am now reminded that friendship is about acceptance; not
always asking for the latest relations report as if we're the U.N.; just to be
there for them when the time is right on both ends. As in the law of physics,
in equal and opposite reactions, when you push too much, what you apply
too much force to often moves further away from you." EXACTLY. So glad you get that...

"People will naturally assume
just because you're more passive, it means they can vent to you, and ON
you, whenever they want. They become highly dependent on you for this,
and when you've had enough and want to make some distance, they act
like it's some personal offense, and as if you've betrayed them." UGH, I know, it's such bullshit. And like I said, I think it's very good. I've even asked them to talk about something else but they just keeeeep wanting to go on and on...

Anyway, bottom line is that you and I have very similar views on friendship, which is probably another reason that you and I get along so well, and will continue to for quuuiiittee some time, my love. I believe you've made some very good points and were upfront with your feelings, which is really all anyone can ask from you. I love you, my beautiful man, and I will see you soon. <3