My grandmother passed away in August of this year. It reminds me that time is passing, and there are some decisions I should probably not put off any longer
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My mom had a son in Ontario, but probably a few years earlier than you. To her, he's dead. She never wanted to even see him when he was born. I only know of him as a cautionary tale when I was growing up (You'll have a bastard baby like your mother did!) I still wish he'd contact us. I'd like to know that he turned out ok, maybe even better than we did removed from the passive aggressive martyr that is my mom. It's a tough choice to make, and I wish you well whatever you decide...
It just occurred to me....I believe Ontario has the option to allow family members other than birth parents to, at least, register with adoption records such that if your half-brother decides to search, he will know that someone is interested in being contacted. My fear is not merely the rejection (and encountering a woman for whom a son is 'dead' is pretty complete rejection there), but causing pain and trauma to someone who has made the choice to close of, completely, that part of her life. Is it fair for me to open that door...?
Ain't the Internet grand. For a period you were writing of what you were cooking, which piqued my interest. (And you should continue on that vein, as an aside!) Thank you as well; it's been good to hash out some of what has been rolling around in my brain with someone on the other side of what I'm working through. Just in case someone is out there wondering about us, I believe I will register, once I muster the courage. Whatever it is you're looking for, I sincerely hope you find it. If the past year has taught me anything it's that life is very short. Very short indeed.
Since you did not specifically ask me to screen this comment, I shan't for the joy of responding...
I thought that my cooking stuff was pretty dull. I enjoy cooking, but I don't make anything earth shattering. Also, one of my feeds is Food Porn and the people there are truly talented. And so I let that slide.
However, now that I know that I have one fan, I will post when I make something I enjoy cooking. In fact, you have encouraged me to consider cooking a special meal in honour of my one fan.
All good, dude. I didn't feel comfortable spilling my mom's closely guarded secrets to all and sundry, and I appreciate that you respected my wishes. Otherwise it's open season on comments. I would indeed be honored by such a meal, but please...no mushrooms, and no seafood. I have struggled to enjoy both over the years, since they give such pleasure to those who love them. I have even acquired proficiency in cooking both, or so I am told. Apparently I make a seafood paella that would make the very angels weep. But to this day, I cannot abide either. And again, thank you.
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I thought that my cooking stuff was pretty dull. I enjoy cooking, but I don't make anything earth shattering. Also, one of my feeds is Food Porn and the people there are truly talented. And so I let that slide.
However, now that I know that I have one fan, I will post when I make something I enjoy cooking. In fact, you have encouraged me to consider cooking a special meal in honour of my one fan.
Again....be well....and thank you.
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