Family Drama
I feel caught a bit here. We fouund out a couple weeks ago that Daniel (my 18-yr old nephew) got his girlfriend pregnant (the second time in less than 2 years that he's gotten a girl pregnant, but the first one lost the baby). Apparently yesterday Daniel told my mother and my younger sister (Lynsie) that he and Ashleigh wanted to get married before the baby was born, that he didn't want his child being born a bastard. Seems like a rather dated view considering things, but I think this might stem a bit from Daniel himself being born out of wedlock and I think maybe he feels (wrongly so in my opinion) that my older sister might have treated him better if she'd been married to his father. Anyway, rather than trying to suggest they wait, which is the logical thing to do considering 1. she's only 7 weeks along and a lot can happen in the 1st trimester 2. they are both only 18, 3.they are talking about getting married for the wrong reason, my mother chose a different option. She said that there was no way that Daniel would be able to afford a ring, she she could have her's resized for them. Now mom hasn't worn her ring in a couple of years. I think she doesn't really consider herself married to dad anymore, whatever.
Lyn was mad that mom offered them the ring. She believes that this is something that should go to one of mom's daughters (more me or Lyn than my older sister since its from her marriage to our father). I agree that mom should have offered it to us first. Thats more traditional after all, and it would hold more sentimental value to us than to Daniel or his girlfriend, but I'm less upset by it than Lyn. i told Lyn that she should talk to mom and let her know how she feels. lyn did so today. Roughly a five minute call (i was talking to her right before she called mom, and she called me right after she called mom). Now granted mom couldn't really talk cause she was at a baby shower, but what came out of all this is that Lyn asked mom if she was still going to give them the ring. Mom said probably, and Lyn told her she'd never talk to her again if she did that, then called me crying.
I hate being stuck in Drama.
Lyn was mad that mom offered them the ring. She believes that this is something that should go to one of mom's daughters (more me or Lyn than my older sister since its from her marriage to our father). I agree that mom should have offered it to us first. Thats more traditional after all, and it would hold more sentimental value to us than to Daniel or his girlfriend, but I'm less upset by it than Lyn. i told Lyn that she should talk to mom and let her know how she feels. lyn did so today. Roughly a five minute call (i was talking to her right before she called mom, and she called me right after she called mom). Now granted mom couldn't really talk cause she was at a baby shower, but what came out of all this is that Lyn asked mom if she was still going to give them the ring. Mom said probably, and Lyn told her she'd never talk to her again if she did that, then called me crying.
I hate being stuck in Drama.