So after ranting yesterday (and thank you guys for bearing with me while I flailed like an epileptic rodent), I was calm enough to respond to the panel coordinator in a rational way. I explained that we would prefer a two hour time slot for Misogyny and Yaoi-- although, if she can only give us one hour, we'll deal-- and then I laid out my rationale for our other panel. The rationale was pretty much "MaY is about all of the problematic issues. Don't Call Me a Sidekick is about the leeeeerve."
Got an e-mail this morning saying that the coordinator had received more hours for panel programming (IDEK), and that she's pretty sure she can fulfill both my requests. At the very least,
sleepfighter and I will be running all four panels, and we will likely get our two hours.
So, I think the lesson here is that new panel coordinators are n00bs. Or that whining on LJ makes you better able to articulate your points elsewhere. Something.