I feel torn between helping and not helping. For example, last Friday I was at a restaurant that has a side entrance. After you order your food at the counter, you get a number to put up on a stick so the waiter brings the food to the right table. This couple sat at a table opposite from us and I could see them. He grabbed a menu and they were looking around. I wondered to myself if they'd never been to the place and were expecting a waiter to go to them and take their order. I debated with myself and finally gave in. I asked them if they were new to the place and they said yes, so I told them they needed to place their order around the corner from where we were sitting at the counter. They said they were waiting for their friends. I felt accomplished and stupid at the same time. Even now the feeling of stupid wins over the feeling of accomplished
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I can understand that. I overheard a bunch of students (from an elite school, famed for being snobbish. :/) wondering why everyone was getting off the bus once, so before I got off I told them that there was a train station nearby, and that they should probably do so now. And then they just stared at me blankly and went, "... oh." Of course, I felt like an idiot afterwards too. It probably seemed like some wierd stranger just butted into their conversation, but I don't quite particularly regret. After all, it's their loss if they choose not to listen to me. xD
So let's say that you're like, lost in a foreign country, and no one came up to you, would you go up and ask someone for directions? (Assuming that you do speak their language.)
Snobs are in a different category. And people who don't want to help themselves and always rely on others. That happens to me at work almost every day. I used to like that co-workers would come to ask me questions and help but after I have told them several times how to do something, I get very sick of "helping" them.
I would have a map and a guidebook. If after looking at both I was still lost, I would ask for help, but it would take a lot of thinking to do that. I'm introverted so me talking to strangers for help is hard.
Like, people who didn't bother to make an effort. A simple example of it would be people who don't even try to find out something for themselves, and instead wait around.
Lastly, how about a scenario whereby someone comes up to you and offers help?
Exactly! One of my bosses is like that. Makes me want to tell her off. But I'm nice. And she's my boss.
If they offer their help, I'll gladly take it. I wouldn't tell them to leave me alone. I think. Actually, when I'm in stores shopping, a clerk will ask me if I need help and one of several things happen. I either 1) say yes, and tell them what I need, or 2) say no 'cause I'm browsing, or 3) say no and later need assistance.
Yup, mostly. I'm stubborn when it comes to asking for help. I don't like to delegate at work and would rather do things myself.
Teens know everything so of course they don't need help and later realize they do need it. Adults are more flexible. Men don't ask help with directions and end up lost.
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Of course, I felt like an idiot afterwards too. It probably seemed like some wierd stranger just butted into their conversation, but I don't quite particularly regret. After all, it's their loss if they choose not to listen to me. xD
So let's say that you're like, lost in a foreign country, and no one came up to you, would you go up and ask someone for directions? (Assuming that you do speak their language.)
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I would have a map and a guidebook. If after looking at both I was still lost, I would ask for help, but it would take a lot of thinking to do that. I'm introverted so me talking to strangers for help is hard.
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Lastly, how about a scenario whereby someone comes up to you and offers help?
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If they offer their help, I'll gladly take it. I wouldn't tell them to leave me alone. I think. Actually, when I'm in stores shopping, a clerk will ask me if I need help and one of several things happen. I either 1) say yes, and tell them what I need, or 2) say no 'cause I'm browsing, or 3) say no and later need assistance.
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I think 3 happens a lot when it comes to teens at my work place. Conversely, 1 happens more often with adults.
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Teens know everything so of course they don't need help and later realize they do need it. Adults are more flexible. Men don't ask help with directions and end up lost.
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