Abortion and what it means to me...
To be completely honest, I'm for keeping abortions legal. Honestly, I might not agree with it; but, I do not have the right to dictate to others what they do with their bodies and/or the bodies of their potential offspring. And to be completely honest, its the last portion of that statement that is what abortion is all about to me. Father's Rights Or rather our lack of rights.
Let's look at a few situations. Girl and guy have sex, girl gets pregnant. Girl decides she wants to have the kid; guy get stuck paying child support... no if ands or buts about it. Girl decides to have abortion, guy is willing to take care of the baby without even asking for child support... child gets aborted, no questions asked.
In most cases, the children (regardless of gender) end up with their mother, even if the father wants custody. That has recently begun to change somewhat. However, there are still some serious issues with the law. They go to court. Father gets visitation, mother gets child support. If the father fails to pay child support, the mother just goes to the court house and boom, father is gonna get his checks garnished (if they aren't taking the cash out that way already). If the mother decides to make the child unavailable for visitation, the father is gonna need an attorney (AKA spend money) to get any real results. If the father holds back child support until he gets to visit his kids, they will demand he pay his back child support; but, will he get any extra visitation time to make up for what he was not allowed? HELL NO! Now, if a mother doesn't allow visitation because the father isn't paying child support. Gotta love how the system works. If the father doesn't hold up his end of the deal, the mother doesn't have to hold up hers; but, if the mother doesn't hold up her end of the deal, the father still has to. Anyone knotice what I'm getting at here?
Now, let's talk deadbeats, shall we? I completely agree the government needs to go after those deadbeats and make them pay their child support. My problem... the fact they are very aggressive towards the fathers who don't pay; but, they virtually ignore the dead-beat moms... and don't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about. My wife's mother was a deadbeat mom and the government didn't do one thing about it until her mom applied for a federal loan for my wife's schooling... which was denied due to the fact she owed child support. So, she couldn't take out a loan to support her child because she wasn't paying her child support??? Someone want to explain the logic behind that one to me.
Basically, here's the honest truth: I don't care about the whole abortion issue anymore. I think people who argue over it are fighting a pointless battle as people are polarized and rarely change sides. I think people who refuse to vote for a canditate because of their abortion views are insanely stupid. Hey, this guy has a great economic idea... he's got good ideas on foreign policy; but I can't vote for him because he's pro-life or pro-choice... I'm sorry, but allowing one issue to pick your canditate is just dumb. I hate to tell these types of people: the world does NOT REVOLVE AROUND THE ABORTION ISSUE!!!
What do I care about? The fact that because I have a penis and I cannot give birth to my offspring, I am nothing more than a paycheck to those children in the eyes of the government. I have no control over my potential offspring AFTER the sex act; but, women's reproductive rights (which I think is a horrible misnomer) allow them control until several months into the pregnancy? So much for equal rights for men and women...
One more thing I need explained to me about abortion: If someone causes a car accident that kills an unborn baby, they get charged with that child's death... even if the mother was on her way to the abortion clinic... Come on, Big Brother... you can't have it both ways. It either IS living or its NOT. And where is the equality in father's and mother's rights?
Like I said: screw the abortion issue... give me some rights as a father.
ooshiny pointed this out to me: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060308/ap_on_re_us/fatherhood_suit
Someone is addressing the issue... just not in the way I'd prefer.
Let's look at a few situations. Girl and guy have sex, girl gets pregnant. Girl decides she wants to have the kid; guy get stuck paying child support... no if ands or buts about it. Girl decides to have abortion, guy is willing to take care of the baby without even asking for child support... child gets aborted, no questions asked.
In most cases, the children (regardless of gender) end up with their mother, even if the father wants custody. That has recently begun to change somewhat. However, there are still some serious issues with the law. They go to court. Father gets visitation, mother gets child support. If the father fails to pay child support, the mother just goes to the court house and boom, father is gonna get his checks garnished (if they aren't taking the cash out that way already). If the mother decides to make the child unavailable for visitation, the father is gonna need an attorney (AKA spend money) to get any real results. If the father holds back child support until he gets to visit his kids, they will demand he pay his back child support; but, will he get any extra visitation time to make up for what he was not allowed? HELL NO! Now, if a mother doesn't allow visitation because the father isn't paying child support. Gotta love how the system works. If the father doesn't hold up his end of the deal, the mother doesn't have to hold up hers; but, if the mother doesn't hold up her end of the deal, the father still has to. Anyone knotice what I'm getting at here?
Now, let's talk deadbeats, shall we? I completely agree the government needs to go after those deadbeats and make them pay their child support. My problem... the fact they are very aggressive towards the fathers who don't pay; but, they virtually ignore the dead-beat moms... and don't tell me I don't know what I'm talking about. My wife's mother was a deadbeat mom and the government didn't do one thing about it until her mom applied for a federal loan for my wife's schooling... which was denied due to the fact she owed child support. So, she couldn't take out a loan to support her child because she wasn't paying her child support??? Someone want to explain the logic behind that one to me.
Basically, here's the honest truth: I don't care about the whole abortion issue anymore. I think people who argue over it are fighting a pointless battle as people are polarized and rarely change sides. I think people who refuse to vote for a canditate because of their abortion views are insanely stupid. Hey, this guy has a great economic idea... he's got good ideas on foreign policy; but I can't vote for him because he's pro-life or pro-choice... I'm sorry, but allowing one issue to pick your canditate is just dumb. I hate to tell these types of people: the world does NOT REVOLVE AROUND THE ABORTION ISSUE!!!
What do I care about? The fact that because I have a penis and I cannot give birth to my offspring, I am nothing more than a paycheck to those children in the eyes of the government. I have no control over my potential offspring AFTER the sex act; but, women's reproductive rights (which I think is a horrible misnomer) allow them control until several months into the pregnancy? So much for equal rights for men and women...
One more thing I need explained to me about abortion: If someone causes a car accident that kills an unborn baby, they get charged with that child's death... even if the mother was on her way to the abortion clinic... Come on, Big Brother... you can't have it both ways. It either IS living or its NOT. And where is the equality in father's and mother's rights?
Like I said: screw the abortion issue... give me some rights as a father.
ooshiny pointed this out to me: http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20060308/ap_on_re_us/fatherhood_suit
Someone is addressing the issue... just not in the way I'd prefer.