What do you think?
Upon entering college, I have realized how much more open minded I have become. Things that may have bothered me in high school no longer phase me, and things I may have been upset about previously are not even issues. I feel I have grown both personally and professionally. There is still one issue though, that college has not touched, and that is the issue of sex. My entire life I was brought up to hold that as an almost sacred act, meant only for a husband and wife. I was taught that waiting for that special person that I would call my husband, was worth the sexual frustration that builds up in one's system when waiting that amount of time. I still hold those feelings, yet I respect many of my friends' choices not to wait, for it is an individual decision that does not have to gain approval from anyone...except maybe God.
A few weeks ago I found myself in an argument with a friend about whether or not people should have sex before marriage. Though I do not judge those who do not wait, I still feel that it is sacred and meant for those who have decided to spend the rest of their lives together. The rebuttle I faced was that it was a way of showing your significant other how much you love them, as well as a way to become closer to that person. I simply stated that I would not want my future husband to have to think about the other people that I had slept with, and I really do not want to ever have to think about the other people he may have slept with. I want to stay true to him though I may not even know him yet. I also want to live my life as though we were already married and stay true to him. Basically, I was scoffed at. Am I being too old fashioned? Is it wrong to want to live my life purely and solely for the person I will someday marry, even though it may be years and years before I even meet the person?
A few weeks ago I found myself in an argument with a friend about whether or not people should have sex before marriage. Though I do not judge those who do not wait, I still feel that it is sacred and meant for those who have decided to spend the rest of their lives together. The rebuttle I faced was that it was a way of showing your significant other how much you love them, as well as a way to become closer to that person. I simply stated that I would not want my future husband to have to think about the other people that I had slept with, and I really do not want to ever have to think about the other people he may have slept with. I want to stay true to him though I may not even know him yet. I also want to live my life as though we were already married and stay true to him. Basically, I was scoffed at. Am I being too old fashioned? Is it wrong to want to live my life purely and solely for the person I will someday marry, even though it may be years and years before I even meet the person?