Help
I have a clinger. The FWB. So, I didn't exactly tell him I have a boyfriend, but I told him that I was seeing someone and things were headed to serious. He sent me an email since the last one I mentioned (heavy with "pity me"). Talking about how I was in his thoughts, and a quote from a book (The List.. the Tara Ison novel I fell in love with) reminded him of me...
Now he sends me this:
Dearest Isabel:
I've noticed you are no longer responding to my emails. That's ok. You will feel short of breath, your heart will race, and soon enough you will find your way back to my office to ease your pain. To feel whole again ....
;-)
So bummed your social life is busy ....
-Me
On a side note, Isabel is not a mistake, it is the character from above-mentioned book. I guess he saw me in her or her in me or something. But... really..
What am I going to do? I want to be nice, gentle, and help him realize that we can be friends. But friends only. Friends that are friendly but NOT codependent. I don't like codependency... I learned about that the hard way, and in doses such as this, I know it is unhealthy.
It's like... he invested way too much in this, much more than I did. I know he cares for me...but I can't get wrapped up or let him stress me out, or constantly be worried about writing him back and saying things perfectly. I don't know.
He's an interesting person. I think he's smart, funny, and has potential to be a good friend. But I wonder how that would or could work. He's married. He has kids. He's much older. How do I handle this? I am at a loss.
I don't know what to say.
Argh.