Funeral Information, etc.
Hello everyone, this is Chase (chaserocket); some of you may have known me as Blaze. I'm posting on behalf of Rukus's fiancé, Sable, who isn't feeling very well and has some catching up to do with college.
I don't know how many of you know me, but Rukus and I have spent a lot of time around each other. We saw each other basically evey day. To escape the loneliness of my condo, I spent my time here with him, Art, Sable, and other roommates/friends who came through the household. He and I had a good relationship and I am honored to have been one of his close friends.
First off, I want to thank everyone for their tremendous support. Rukus didn't think he had many friends, in fact, he sometimes believed that no one actually liked him, but if he is still with us in spirit, then he knows now more than ever how much everyone truly cared about and will miss him.
Rukus's ashes will be spread Monday evening outside of Raleigh in North Carolina. Anybody and everybody who wants to come is welcome.
While it is impossible to have a true funeral for Rukus due to lack of monetary means, we will be holding a celebratory wake of his life - a party where we can all get together and be merry about our departed friend. This will give everyone the opportunity to see each other and trade stories, eat and drink. =) I will announce further details when I can.
If anyone has any pictures with Rukus in them please email them to him. It would mean the world to him.
The previous part of this post was made by Chase, this is now Sable editing the entry.
There has been a lot of drama as everyone can see in the comments. I knew there would be some, but I didn't think there would be to the extent there is. I am not scamming anyone.
Someone commented that everything seems very businesslike. This is completely true. There was no way I could have prepared myself for what has happened. I am barely able to function. I haven't been able to do my homework, go to class, drive anywhere, or do much of anything. However, if I turn everything into a task for me to do, and try to be organized and focus on the things that need to be done, I have found that I am able to function. I am trying to stay focused on things I need to do so that I do not focus on my sadness. I feel that I will able to handle my feelings much better at a later time. While this may not be right or healthy, this is the only way I know how to deal with things right now.
The reason why Chase has posted in this entry and the entry in my journal is because I really suck at writing, and Chase is much better than I am. I tell Chase what I want written, and he writes it for me.
The reason why his family is not posting here is mostly because his family doesn't know what LJ even is until I told them. They also do not have constant access to the internet nor the free time that I have. His family knows what is posted here, and knows that I am posting this. When I am in NC I will show them how LJ works, and I am sure they will be adding an entry for themselves.
A wake will be held. I am trying to find property out in the woods to hold it at, otherwise I will go with a campground or indoor facility. Since I do not know many people who have property, it is taking me longer than a day to make arrangements. This will be held in the Orlando area, but I will not know the specific location as I am trying to find the best place.
A PayPal donation link was posted on here because many people have said that they would like to donate money to cover any costs and to help out in any way. I had asked four of Rukus and I's RL friends and they thought it was a good idea. I don't want to have to ask for money, I wish I had the money to pay for everything myself and I would rather allow those who wanted to donate the ability to do so rather than not do anything at all. If people want to donate for a specific reason, such as to cover the costs of the wake, and the cost is less than what is donated, I am more than happy to refund money. If people want to know exactly what was donated, and what it was spent on/given to, I will be happy to provide logs of it.
I did not want this to turn into a argument filled with drama, I just wanted this to be a type of memorial to Rukus, that is why I did not post this until now. Shortly after the wake I will probably screen most of the comments so that if anybody comes back to this journal, they can remember the good times, and not only read about drama.
I am not telling people they have to donate, I am giving the option to those who want to. I plan to use the donations to help those in his family he would want me to and to help cover any costs holding the wake. As I stated before, I will show records to anyone who wants to know exactly what the donations went to (however, I will edit out the personal information of those who donated).
A lot of people have been close with Rukus and knew him very well. I wasn't there for his past, I have only really known him for the past two years. However, because of the relationship him and I had, I know a lot of things that he did not tell anybody else. Him and I have had talked about what we wanted if we had died suddenly. I never wrote a will, because I told Rukus what I wanted to happen, and he did the same. I would hope that anyone who knew Rukus well enough would also trust his judgment and trust his judgment in me.
It makes me sad that this has turned into drama. I personally know there will be some, and I do not have a problem with other people's opinions. I just want these last journal entries to be positive. I hope that further comments relating to these issues are brought to my LJ so that this one can be as positive as it can.
I don't know how many of you know me, but Rukus and I have spent a lot of time around each other. We saw each other basically evey day. To escape the loneliness of my condo, I spent my time here with him, Art, Sable, and other roommates/friends who came through the household. He and I had a good relationship and I am honored to have been one of his close friends.
First off, I want to thank everyone for their tremendous support. Rukus didn't think he had many friends, in fact, he sometimes believed that no one actually liked him, but if he is still with us in spirit, then he knows now more than ever how much everyone truly cared about and will miss him.
Rukus's ashes will be spread Monday evening outside of Raleigh in North Carolina. Anybody and everybody who wants to come is welcome.
While it is impossible to have a true funeral for Rukus due to lack of monetary means, we will be holding a celebratory wake of his life - a party where we can all get together and be merry about our departed friend. This will give everyone the opportunity to see each other and trade stories, eat and drink. =) I will announce further details when I can.
If anyone has any pictures with Rukus in them please email them to him. It would mean the world to him.
The previous part of this post was made by Chase, this is now Sable editing the entry.
There has been a lot of drama as everyone can see in the comments. I knew there would be some, but I didn't think there would be to the extent there is. I am not scamming anyone.
Someone commented that everything seems very businesslike. This is completely true. There was no way I could have prepared myself for what has happened. I am barely able to function. I haven't been able to do my homework, go to class, drive anywhere, or do much of anything. However, if I turn everything into a task for me to do, and try to be organized and focus on the things that need to be done, I have found that I am able to function. I am trying to stay focused on things I need to do so that I do not focus on my sadness. I feel that I will able to handle my feelings much better at a later time. While this may not be right or healthy, this is the only way I know how to deal with things right now.
The reason why Chase has posted in this entry and the entry in my journal is because I really suck at writing, and Chase is much better than I am. I tell Chase what I want written, and he writes it for me.
The reason why his family is not posting here is mostly because his family doesn't know what LJ even is until I told them. They also do not have constant access to the internet nor the free time that I have. His family knows what is posted here, and knows that I am posting this. When I am in NC I will show them how LJ works, and I am sure they will be adding an entry for themselves.
A wake will be held. I am trying to find property out in the woods to hold it at, otherwise I will go with a campground or indoor facility. Since I do not know many people who have property, it is taking me longer than a day to make arrangements. This will be held in the Orlando area, but I will not know the specific location as I am trying to find the best place.
A PayPal donation link was posted on here because many people have said that they would like to donate money to cover any costs and to help out in any way. I had asked four of Rukus and I's RL friends and they thought it was a good idea. I don't want to have to ask for money, I wish I had the money to pay for everything myself and I would rather allow those who wanted to donate the ability to do so rather than not do anything at all. If people want to donate for a specific reason, such as to cover the costs of the wake, and the cost is less than what is donated, I am more than happy to refund money. If people want to know exactly what was donated, and what it was spent on/given to, I will be happy to provide logs of it.
I did not want this to turn into a argument filled with drama, I just wanted this to be a type of memorial to Rukus, that is why I did not post this until now. Shortly after the wake I will probably screen most of the comments so that if anybody comes back to this journal, they can remember the good times, and not only read about drama.
I am not telling people they have to donate, I am giving the option to those who want to. I plan to use the donations to help those in his family he would want me to and to help cover any costs holding the wake. As I stated before, I will show records to anyone who wants to know exactly what the donations went to (however, I will edit out the personal information of those who donated).
A lot of people have been close with Rukus and knew him very well. I wasn't there for his past, I have only really known him for the past two years. However, because of the relationship him and I had, I know a lot of things that he did not tell anybody else. Him and I have had talked about what we wanted if we had died suddenly. I never wrote a will, because I told Rukus what I wanted to happen, and he did the same. I would hope that anyone who knew Rukus well enough would also trust his judgment and trust his judgment in me.
It makes me sad that this has turned into drama. I personally know there will be some, and I do not have a problem with other people's opinions. I just want these last journal entries to be positive. I hope that further comments relating to these issues are brought to my LJ so that this one can be as positive as it can.