Sep 15, 2008 13:10
I seem to be incapable of quantifying anymore the difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. I understand the difference between saying, "I love you," to my mom vs. a lover. But what's the difference between saying, "I love you," and "I'm in love with you," when it's said to the same person?
I used to know what being "in love" felt like. At least, I think I did. And maybe that's why I can no longer define it, because it was so long ago, and those times when I was in love, I was also a very different person. I was so unhealthy - obsessive, codependent, possessive, fearful, distrusting and jealous. How can anyone truly love like that?
And so when I look back and try to remember what being in love felt like, it doesn't match up at all with what I'm feeling these days. And so I don't think I'm in love. But maybe the reality is, what I had in the past wasn't love at all. It was obsession and codependence and possessiveness and fear and distrust and jealousy. So it was indeed more neurosis than love. It was to love what SPAM is to meat - a highly toxic counterfeit.
Maybe I don't need to define what I'm feeling. Maybe I don't need to corner it, box it up, slap a bow on it and give it away with the best of intentions. Maybe I can just nurture it and let it grow ... and hope it's not belladonna.
Money can't buy it, baby
Sex can't buy it, baby
Drugs can't buy it, baby
You can't buy it, baby
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in love alone, yeah yeah
Take the power to set you free
Kick down the door and throw away the key
Give up your needs
Your poisoned seeds
Find yourself elected to a different kind of creed
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in the power of creation
I believe in the good vibration
I believe in love alone yeah yeah
Won't somebody tell me what we're coming to
It might take forever till we watch those dreams come true
All the money in the world won't buy you peace of mind
You can have it all but you still won't be satisfied
Money can't buy it, baby
Sex can't buy it, baby
Drugs can't buy it, baby
You can't buy it, baby
Now
Hear this
Pay attention to me
'cause I'm a rich white girl and it's plain to see
i got every kind of thing that the money can buy
Let me tell you all about it
Let me amplify
I got diamonds
You heard about those
I got so many that I can't close my safe at night in the dark
Lying awake in a sick dream
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in the power of creation
I believe in the good vibration
I believe in love alone yeah yeah
Money Can't Buy It by Annie Lennox