WARNING...This is an angry rant!!!

[rugbymom2002]

So I went to Ft. Polk, LA this weekend to see my sister get married. Here's the scoop...She says she met this guy about 9 months ago, and he is a local down there. Fine, as long as he treats her well. Then in mid September she calls to tell us he proposed. NOONE in our family has ever talked to the guy, let alone met him! Next thing we know, they are getting married in Nov. We has at most 6 wks notice. So the whole family was scrambling to find a way to get there. Then our Grandma got really sick and was in ICU for several days. Obviously she and Pap, (who in Sept. had spinal chord surgery and is still recovering...)are not getting there. We begged her to postpone the wedding to have it back home so Gram and Pap could be there. She said no, then WE asked her if they would be willing to come here approx. 12 hours from home so they could come here, but no also. So my cousins and my brother decided to drive down here and we could all go together so at least someone in our family would be there. One of my cousins just had a tubal ligation the day before they left, but she came anyway. We get to my sisters "house" (Shack!!!) at about 5:30 in the morning after 18 hours in the car! Exhausetd! But Cousin who just had surgery doesn't want to stay in the "house" because she doesn't feel safe or comfortable there...(it was a MESS!!!) so she goes to a hotel with her two month old baby! I stay because I could see how hurt my sisters feelings were. (I didn't want to put my baby down on the floor there it was so gross!) We spent the day there with her, but weren't included in anything concerning the wedding...NOTHING. (When the preacher asked "Who gives this woman..." the GROOMS family answered "we all do!!!" in chorus!) My sister didn't have jewelry to wear, so at the something borrowed I let her wear my diamond solitair neclace that Drew got me when he got home from A'stan last time. She was a beautiful bride...her dress was gorgeous! (Our family sent the money for the dress.) Her hair and makeup were very nice and the ceremony was nice. They held it at the "house" but they had a BBQ going and it was a good time. Then about two hours into the reception part we had to leave to get home in time for the cousins and my brother to get back to PA by Tesday. Tabby cried because we had to go, which is understandable, we hadn't seen each other in like 2 and a half years! And it was hard to say goodbye. (It was hard to leave her there!!!) She seems happy there though, so I am trying to be happy for her. She says they are fixing up the "house" so I asked her to share her "vision" with me so I could see what she sees when she looks at the place. I really want to be happy for her! Well after I get home (the drive home was FULL of drama too!!! Think violent drunk brother and three scared kids!!!) she calls me to tell me that she's mad that I didn't stay for the whole reception...and that her in-laws and friends think I am a Bitch and wanted to slap me! I asked her if she pointed out that we drove 18 hours to be there knowing that we couldn't stay long, just so that someone from her family would be there, and that they (the in-laws) were not willing to do the same so more of her family would be able to make it. At that point she said she had to go and I haven't talked to her since. I am so mad right now!!! I spent about $500 to get there (my kids Christmas fund) And until that phone call I would have done it again to be there for my sister...now I just feel like I wasted my kids Christmas money for nothing...I could cry.

Well I had to get that out! I can't stop brooding over it, and I don't want to waste my time brooding, but I can't get it off my mind. I am hoping that letting it all out here will help...GAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Why do people have to be so stupid!!!!!!!