What do I think it means to be married?
To me, Marraige specifically means to have an oath with your partner to be manogomous for life, and to care for each other for life, no matter what may occure. Usually this is by means of religious and/or civil oath, and I feel these are probably the best way. (A relegious or other equivilant level moral/ethical oath alone would be considered marraige in my book, whether or not acknowleged as such by the government.)
First off, I feel that manogomous sex is much different than any casual. Dispite never having had casual sex, I can truely understand why. There is a bond that occures when you truely know that of an exclusivity in that aspect of the relationship. I can only put it that such feeling of trust and bond during what one would consider the most expressional point of your love is something to be understood.
Many people have tried to explain what occures over time, but I feel it best to say that part of the two people emotionally merges to bond them. The couple becomes interdependent for this emotional aspect of each other, and this is the strongest explination of why when someone gets divorced, it is almost like a peice of them is broken or even missing. While there are some grounds for divorce, it is obviously not something to be taken as lightly as it is, for this very reason, and one should try every possible attempt to fix something that is broken before throwing it out.
I cannot see the logic people who say "sex is sex." I can only see it as ignorance, forgivable ignorance, but ignorance none-the-less. These people seem not to understand that saying that is like saying "a handshake is a handshake", "friendship is friendship", "love is love" or "kissing is kissing" when there are many different aspects, strengths and symbolisms of each of these. However, this can easily be due to the fact that they have never experienced a form that did entail anything more than a casual relationship.
To trivialize a general term into a generalization is not to do it justice. I guess this happens elsewhere as well, as many of my readers have seen people do with my wording.
As not to stereotype, I cannot go any deeper, as each couple is different about this bond. It has no relevance to sexuality, gender or anything. While there are both masculine and feminine aspects, both genders experience both aspect sets to a degree, there is only a tendancy to the male and female as to which occures, even though many people defy these standards in one way or another.
As of depending on each other, this varies throughout one's lifetime, as well as from couple to couple.
First off, I feel that manogomous sex is much different than any casual. Dispite never having had casual sex, I can truely understand why. There is a bond that occures when you truely know that of an exclusivity in that aspect of the relationship. I can only put it that such feeling of trust and bond during what one would consider the most expressional point of your love is something to be understood.
Many people have tried to explain what occures over time, but I feel it best to say that part of the two people emotionally merges to bond them. The couple becomes interdependent for this emotional aspect of each other, and this is the strongest explination of why when someone gets divorced, it is almost like a peice of them is broken or even missing. While there are some grounds for divorce, it is obviously not something to be taken as lightly as it is, for this very reason, and one should try every possible attempt to fix something that is broken before throwing it out.
I cannot see the logic people who say "sex is sex." I can only see it as ignorance, forgivable ignorance, but ignorance none-the-less. These people seem not to understand that saying that is like saying "a handshake is a handshake", "friendship is friendship", "love is love" or "kissing is kissing" when there are many different aspects, strengths and symbolisms of each of these. However, this can easily be due to the fact that they have never experienced a form that did entail anything more than a casual relationship.
To trivialize a general term into a generalization is not to do it justice. I guess this happens elsewhere as well, as many of my readers have seen people do with my wording.
As not to stereotype, I cannot go any deeper, as each couple is different about this bond. It has no relevance to sexuality, gender or anything. While there are both masculine and feminine aspects, both genders experience both aspect sets to a degree, there is only a tendancy to the male and female as to which occures, even though many people defy these standards in one way or another.
As of depending on each other, this varies throughout one's lifetime, as well as from couple to couple.