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I had money in my paypal from a return I made to this one dress shop, so I instead forwarded it to Phil $200 via paypal and then a text message that said "don't refund me"
I can't begin to count the number of times he's picked up the bill, bought my drinks, bought pit tickets for Weezer, and uhm....not to mention- built me a vespa scooter to my specifications.....red with a white racing stripe. This $200 is probably nothing compared to what he's put out. Phil is a guy that doesn't think much about money. He needs very little. He's got a lot of stuff. If he really needs money, he just restores some motorcycle and turns it around to sell for more. Same thing with musical instruments and other random stuff. I mean, he works at a pawn shop.
oh he just sent me a text saying "what happens if I don't accept a paypal payment?" and I told him he has to take it.
because frankly, if he doesn't, I'll just find a way to hide an extra $20 in his wallet or pocket when he's not looking.
He will never let me pay him back for anything. I owe him a wife. or two.
I even tried to buy him Weezer tickets but he was like "ya, already got em" Pffff....
and while we're on the friends topic, I haven't seen or really talked to Andrea since my birthday party, which was 3 weeks ago.
She'll randomly send me a text. I don't know if I rattled off about the Dallas show with Ben. Ben Folds made her his choir master. She's in charge of handling the music, making arrangements if needed, getting the singers, and running rehearsal. She told me she wanted me on soprano for this Dallas gig. But. I would have to pay for my airfare, hotel, and all other expenses. There is no pay for rehearsals or the gig itself.
So....I'm going to pay about $800 to go to Dallas for 2 days and sing background choir stuff for Ben Folds? no. I'm not.
and I almost said yes until she wrote "and by the way, I'm going to do what I'm going to do with Ben and I need you to be okay with that".
and we all know that I am not okay with that. That text really did make things worse for me and for her case.
She's been asking me to go to Momo's a few times during the week when she's working in Fullerton, but I'll either not respond in enough time to meet with her or I will actually have an excuse not to be there (rehearsal or gym). Most of her other avenues of communication have been generally ignored. I'm just turned off. For a lot of reasons. I don't really want to re-live or explain much more about it here and I'm getting tired of talking about it. I'm just not so proud to call her a friend any more.
She booked the spa weekend thing I got for her birthday and was just expecting that I would be there even though a few minutes before she was all "well, I think I'm taking my sister".
I had to respond today with "I'm sorry, but I'm re-evaluating our friendship. I'll come to you when I'm ready to talk"
This has been on my mind for weeks. The right way to handle the situation. I know how she can be. Usually a bit volatile and defensive. I've tried talking to her about things that were important to me in the past, but it never ended well. We had an argument in December and I eventually just left her house and headed home because she was just getting more and more drunk as we talked and it was like going in circles for way too long... and she also didn't understand why I thought she did something wrong. She sent me a text apologizing and saying "I hate fighting, let's never fight again" but it sounded more like "I hate conflict with you when it happens, so let's avoid our problems all together". I dunno, things have clearly changed in the last 6 years since I first met her. I know I've changed. It doesn't seem like she's changed all that much. I mean, despite all the things that have happened to her- good and bad- her personality and way of functioning in the world hasn't changed. I've given her a lot. I've done a lot. I've had to hold my tongue a lot. I've had to swallow my pride. I've had to scoop her off the ground on so many occasions. I've done everything and more than what I think a best friend should do, but there are some things that I've done that I just don't see her doing for me in return. And actually, I know she hasn't when she had the chance to.
And she's lied to me about important things. Even not-so important things. Every thing is adding up and it's weighing me down when I'm around her. I've been very light the last 3 weeks and I unfortunately have to report that it's been because I haven't seen her.
I feel bad about this, but I know what I need for me. I would expect a friend to understand and re-think herself before jumping to conclusions.
I'm not saying I want her out of my life completely. I am saying that I want less of her involved in it. We're not best friends any more. We're not good companions. It sometimes even feels like we're at war with one another.
I can't begin to count the number of times he's picked up the bill, bought my drinks, bought pit tickets for Weezer, and uhm....not to mention- built me a vespa scooter to my specifications.....red with a white racing stripe. This $200 is probably nothing compared to what he's put out. Phil is a guy that doesn't think much about money. He needs very little. He's got a lot of stuff. If he really needs money, he just restores some motorcycle and turns it around to sell for more. Same thing with musical instruments and other random stuff. I mean, he works at a pawn shop.
oh he just sent me a text saying "what happens if I don't accept a paypal payment?" and I told him he has to take it.
because frankly, if he doesn't, I'll just find a way to hide an extra $20 in his wallet or pocket when he's not looking.
He will never let me pay him back for anything. I owe him a wife. or two.
I even tried to buy him Weezer tickets but he was like "ya, already got em" Pffff....
and while we're on the friends topic, I haven't seen or really talked to Andrea since my birthday party, which was 3 weeks ago.
She'll randomly send me a text. I don't know if I rattled off about the Dallas show with Ben. Ben Folds made her his choir master. She's in charge of handling the music, making arrangements if needed, getting the singers, and running rehearsal. She told me she wanted me on soprano for this Dallas gig. But. I would have to pay for my airfare, hotel, and all other expenses. There is no pay for rehearsals or the gig itself.
So....I'm going to pay about $800 to go to Dallas for 2 days and sing background choir stuff for Ben Folds? no. I'm not.
and I almost said yes until she wrote "and by the way, I'm going to do what I'm going to do with Ben and I need you to be okay with that".
and we all know that I am not okay with that. That text really did make things worse for me and for her case.
She's been asking me to go to Momo's a few times during the week when she's working in Fullerton, but I'll either not respond in enough time to meet with her or I will actually have an excuse not to be there (rehearsal or gym). Most of her other avenues of communication have been generally ignored. I'm just turned off. For a lot of reasons. I don't really want to re-live or explain much more about it here and I'm getting tired of talking about it. I'm just not so proud to call her a friend any more.
She booked the spa weekend thing I got for her birthday and was just expecting that I would be there even though a few minutes before she was all "well, I think I'm taking my sister".
I had to respond today with "I'm sorry, but I'm re-evaluating our friendship. I'll come to you when I'm ready to talk"
This has been on my mind for weeks. The right way to handle the situation. I know how she can be. Usually a bit volatile and defensive. I've tried talking to her about things that were important to me in the past, but it never ended well. We had an argument in December and I eventually just left her house and headed home because she was just getting more and more drunk as we talked and it was like going in circles for way too long... and she also didn't understand why I thought she did something wrong. She sent me a text apologizing and saying "I hate fighting, let's never fight again" but it sounded more like "I hate conflict with you when it happens, so let's avoid our problems all together". I dunno, things have clearly changed in the last 6 years since I first met her. I know I've changed. It doesn't seem like she's changed all that much. I mean, despite all the things that have happened to her- good and bad- her personality and way of functioning in the world hasn't changed. I've given her a lot. I've done a lot. I've had to hold my tongue a lot. I've had to swallow my pride. I've had to scoop her off the ground on so many occasions. I've done everything and more than what I think a best friend should do, but there are some things that I've done that I just don't see her doing for me in return. And actually, I know she hasn't when she had the chance to.
And she's lied to me about important things. Even not-so important things. Every thing is adding up and it's weighing me down when I'm around her. I've been very light the last 3 weeks and I unfortunately have to report that it's been because I haven't seen her.
I feel bad about this, but I know what I need for me. I would expect a friend to understand and re-think herself before jumping to conclusions.
I'm not saying I want her out of my life completely. I am saying that I want less of her involved in it. We're not best friends any more. We're not good companions. It sometimes even feels like we're at war with one another.