I Don't Expect Too Many Responses, But Why Not...

[ruckinredhead]

As an anonymous reply to this post, I want you to ask me any questions you've been afraid to ask for whatever reason. That I'd be offended, angry, whatever. I won't know it was you. I'll answer them honestly. Even if it hurts. If you don't have any questions, feel free to make any comments you've been afraid to make. Again, I won't know it was you

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[anonymous]

Did you ever think that your boyfiend is the one holding you back?

[ruckinredhead]

That thought has crossed my mind on multiple occasions. The circumstances surrounding his situation I can't help but attribute, at least some amount to our current position. However, I've made the choice to stay with him and suffer through whatever set-backs that may put upon us. I'm not where I want to be in my life right now, but in some ways I chose to be here too.

[tuffgirl52]

What is this game turning into an excuse to pick on Kevin?

[ruckinredhead]

Um...it was one question...and I answered honestly. That doesn't mean I'm picking on him and it's nothing he doesn't already know.

[tuffgirl52]

No I ment with the questions people have been asking like that one and some of the one's on his post I wasn't meaning anything about your answer. :p Turkey Head.

[ruckinredhead]

Oh...well pssh...I hadn't read his yet :P

[anonymous]

Maybe this is less "lets pick on Kevin" and more things everyone has been wondering for years?? There's a reason that no one asked until it was anonymous because every one is so busy defending him for being 26 and still living at home, working McD's, refusing to even TRY and go to school, and still smoking, eating nuke and serve food, and resisting even seeking medical intervention to lose weight to even look and say "instead of making him feel better about doing unhealthy things and being stuck in high school, why not instead help guide him to a healthier way of life and get some education." Because, face it, you're enabling him. Just like you enable everyone else in your family.. Just like you write off everyone who dares to try and do something positive for themselves because that includes no longer enabling you and yours. So maybe, instead of attacking people for asking honest questions, you should, instead, take a good honest look at yourself and your family and consider how you can help instead of just helping keep the status

[ruckinredhead]

Hmm...well yes there is a difference between asking a question and attacking a person. However, you can do both simultaneously given that the question is worded appropriately. Phrasing things such as "refusing to even TRY and go to school" when you are someone who clearly doesn't know how he feels about that topic, does present itself as a pretty blatant attack. Or "why not instead help guide him to a healthier way of life and get some education" when many (including myself) of the people in his life have strongly urged and tried to help him move in this direction, yet he is the only one who can truly help himself. We can poke, prod, support and provide resources as much as we want to, but no one can force him to take the first step. Ultimately it is in his hands. Just because we are not physically forcing him to the things we think and know are better for his health, doesn't mean we are enabling him. So maybe it's not so much that we are "attacking people for asking honest questions" but defending ourselves against those who asked

[tuffgirl52]

Not to mention again this shows that this person doesn't really know him since he HAS BEEN TRYING and loosing weight and what is with the attack on me for helping my family holy crap. I don't know many good people who wouldn't help there disabled mother and I'm moving out in a few months and getting married next year and Kevin has similar plans yet again showing that this person doesn't know what there talking about. and at least he's working until he finds a new job not just giving up on that one. and I don't really feel that I have written off anyone so really WTF? Also I'm way more independant of my family then most realize.

[ruckinredhead]

Do YOU think he is the one holding me back?