Why don't the guys dress up?
An interesting phenomenon I have noticed, and it has stood out very clearly at the hotel this week: straight guys are slobs.
I can't count how many couples I see where the woman is dressed up - dress, stockings, high heels, make up, jewelry, hair done, cute purse, obviously put some time into her appearance, but the guy is in faded jeans and a hoodie. She looks ready to for dinner at a dressy supper club and he looks ready to rake leaves in the back yard.
Why do guys do that?
I haven't seen a single couple where the woman is in sweats and slippers and her man is in good jeans and a pressed shirt. No men in suits and ties hanging out with women in yoga pants with their hair in a desperation ponytail. Never happens.
And it's only straight men. Lots of gay couples at the hotel, some obvious and some only suspected, but they are always dressed in fairly close approximation of each other. I haven't seen a guy in a suit and jacket having dinner with a scruffy dude in ragged jeans and an Incubus t-shirt.
Is it that you guys don't want us to think you're dressing up for us? Because let me tell you a little secret: we would love that. I love it when a guy I'm dating shows up looking dapper and freshly lint-brushed, especially if we're going someplace nice. If we're heading down to the corner for a pint, that's different, but even then I don't want him to look grubby if I'm dressed nicely. It's embarrassing! I want him to look like he thinks being with me is special and deserving of a few minutes with a comb and a toothbrush, not like he's some homeless dude I ran into on the way to the bar.
I can't count how many couples I see where the woman is dressed up - dress, stockings, high heels, make up, jewelry, hair done, cute purse, obviously put some time into her appearance, but the guy is in faded jeans and a hoodie. She looks ready to for dinner at a dressy supper club and he looks ready to rake leaves in the back yard.
Why do guys do that?
I haven't seen a single couple where the woman is in sweats and slippers and her man is in good jeans and a pressed shirt. No men in suits and ties hanging out with women in yoga pants with their hair in a desperation ponytail. Never happens.
And it's only straight men. Lots of gay couples at the hotel, some obvious and some only suspected, but they are always dressed in fairly close approximation of each other. I haven't seen a guy in a suit and jacket having dinner with a scruffy dude in ragged jeans and an Incubus t-shirt.
Is it that you guys don't want us to think you're dressing up for us? Because let me tell you a little secret: we would love that. I love it when a guy I'm dating shows up looking dapper and freshly lint-brushed, especially if we're going someplace nice. If we're heading down to the corner for a pint, that's different, but even then I don't want him to look grubby if I'm dressed nicely. It's embarrassing! I want him to look like he thinks being with me is special and deserving of a few minutes with a comb and a toothbrush, not like he's some homeless dude I ran into on the way to the bar.