Is this "can't say anything to Joe when I'm pissed" thing something that he says you can't do, or a limit that you've placed on yourself?
Sometimes, even (and especially) the people you love are going to drive you crazy. While I would agree that taking some deep breaths and calming down a bit is a good idea before talking to someone who has upset you, I think it's important for people to know when they've upset you. That way, they can try to avoid doing it again. I also think you're buying into the damned social advertising. Being a happy, smiling doll is no way to be healthy. (Ask me how I know.)
I would also like to share something I've learned recently: It's healthy to be selfish sometimes. What many women view as "selfish" is actually "taking care of yourself."
Also, I didn't reply to your last comment about meals that Alex and I eat--we do cook with butter and olive oil, mainly. Olive oil has all kinds of good fats (and one does need at least a little fat to keep going), and butter tastes good. If one is, let's say, sauteeing chicken, then using mainly olive oil with just a little tiny bit of butter usually does the trick. It doesn't take much olive oil, either. We shop the meat sales at Albertson's, and we also do a lot of our staple shopping at Costco. (I know that storage can be an issue with Costco. Do you have a freezer?)
Sometimes, even (and especially) the people you love are going to drive you crazy. While I would agree that taking some deep breaths and calming down a bit is a good idea before talking to someone who has upset you, I think it's important for people to know when they've upset you. That way, they can try to avoid doing it again. I also think you're buying into the damned social advertising. Being a happy, smiling doll is no way to be healthy. (Ask me how I know.)
I would also like to share something I've learned recently: It's healthy to be selfish sometimes. What many women view as "selfish" is actually "taking care of yourself."
Also, I didn't reply to your last comment about meals that Alex and I eat--we do cook with butter and olive oil, mainly. Olive oil has all kinds of good fats (and one does need at least a little fat to keep going), and butter tastes good. If one is, let's say, sauteeing chicken, then using mainly olive oil with just a little tiny bit of butter usually does the trick. It doesn't take much olive oil, either. We shop the meat sales at Albertson's, and we also do a lot of our staple shopping at Costco. (I know that storage can be an issue with Costco. Do you have a freezer?)
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