And this particular ethical problem is something I've been dealing with since I was fifteen. In the intervening time between 15 and right now, it's gotten a little tedious
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Re: Advice or something close to it.royalassassinJanuary 28 2003, 05:49:08 UTC
Well, if we're down to discussing mechanics like "help vs. intrusion", that's a matter of approach, and agreed completely that it's delicate and has be handled carefully. Also agreed that she knows he sucks, but I don't think she herself knows why she's keeping him. I might be wrong. That has happened before.
Help unwanted aye, help ill-recieved, aye, both par for the course. In the interest of complete disclosure, I don't think he's beating the shit out of her. If I suspected that and could even approximate confirming, this post never would have hit the wire. In such cases, I don't feel a need for advice up front; people that disagree with my decisions can defend to me why they feel I should have left a friend with an abusive bastard. So far, it hasn't been an issue. Besides, in this particular case, I don't think he could take her; she's not "go-kick-Steve" tough, but is certainly plenty tough enough to handle her boyfriend.
Still, even without physical abuse on the line, I hate seeing it, and I have real trouble failing to solve a problem when I see it. Granted, that does get me into a lot of problems that get created by my "solutions", but you can't have everything :)
That sounds like a third vote for "do this", 3 for, 0 against. I'll line it up.
Help unwanted aye, help ill-recieved, aye, both par for the course. In the interest of complete disclosure, I don't think he's beating the shit out of her. If I suspected that and could even approximate confirming, this post never would have hit the wire. In such cases, I don't feel a need for advice up front; people that disagree with my decisions can defend to me why they feel I should have left a friend with an abusive bastard. So far, it hasn't been an issue. Besides, in this particular case, I don't think he could take her; she's not "go-kick-Steve" tough, but is certainly plenty tough enough to handle her boyfriend.
Still, even without physical abuse on the line, I hate seeing it, and I have real trouble failing to solve a problem when I see it. Granted, that does get me into a lot of problems that get created by my "solutions", but you can't have everything :)
That sounds like a third vote for "do this", 3 for, 0 against. I'll line it up.
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