never dealing with the past DOES hurt!

[roxy_ana]

Emotional baggage can SUCK!! Especially when out of the blue an incident happens and it triggers that hidden painful past CRAP

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[_tala_nituna]

Is it normal for people to hit other peoples children when they misbehave? Not unless that is specifically what the parent(s) told them to do as a means of so-called "discipline". >:o( That's just horrendous! I can not imagine my child coming home with a bruise. I would be incredibly upset (for the same reasons) as well. This just made my heart sink. My ex disciplined his kids that way and told me to as well. It was RARE that it came down to that for me, because whaddya know explaining what they did WORKS 99% of the time. But he would strike them without second thought. It broke my heart because I know how scared it makes me now to argue with my parents, even though I'm 25 and not 5.

i'm so sorry babe. :'o( *big hugs to you and your daughter*

[roxy_ana]

thanks Leigh, I know you understand! I would never even DREAM of hitting anyone else's children!! Never I just don't get that? Not even if they told me I could or should, it's just not in me!
*hugs* back to you and thanks again ♥

[soft_implosion]

disciplinary actions (as in what is acceptable and what isn't) should always be one of the first things you discuss with a babysitter.
i babysat the neighborhood kids for years
some parents asked me not to spank
some parents told me to
if a parent asked me not to, i didn't
if they said i should, i would (but only as a last resort)

either way, though, i can't ever imagine hitting a child hard enough to leave a handprint bruise.
that's just
BRUTAL!

[roxy_ana]

I just never even thought that she would be like that, she is only 20yrs old and I have known her for a long time. She is quiet and passive, so not like that but I guess you just never know?!? And like my best friend said maybe in her home it was a strict up bringing and she knows no different and assumes everyone is the same!?! Who friggin knows, we all grew up in the church and there are a lot of strict families...including the home I grew up in (that went WAY too far) but NOT MINE!! I believe there are other ways, but that's just me! 90% of the time it is not handled right and I have seen it many times in too many homes and it always seems to be out anger and no apologies and that is not right in my eyes! It's a control thing and a lot of parents do not respect their children, granted every child is different as well! Hitting is out of anger more often than not(in my experience) and I will not bring my children up believing that way

[lady_e]

You should be the one who decides how your child is raised. The girl shouldnt have spanked your little one without knowing how you feel about such things. I'm glad you got things sorted out there.

((((Lady E))))

[roxy_ana]

hey there hunnie...miss you!
THANKS for your words, they mean a lot!
How is that little Fido anyway?
I read your entry about your little birdie being *jealous* of your intimacy with your bf...it made me laugh ;o)

[hugeness]

It's late for commenting on this but...

Oh my... I can't imagine what would happen to the girl who would hit MY kids. I'd probably hit her too. One thing is sure, she would NEVER EVER babysit my kids again.