Playin' the guru
So I was at life coaching tonight and got loads out of it. So much so I came back, ready to put the world to right and proceeded to play guru to Gillybean, my housemate. We had great fun. Gilly and I would just say stuff to one another and then in a moment of complete shock self-realisation, there'd be a sharp intake of breath, a spooked expression on both our faces and a pointing at one another as if to say, 'CAUGHT!'
Previously at life coaching, we had set some goals. Tonight, we were looking at values. Our values are indicative of what life means to us and why we do the things we do. And (worth noting) when our core values are not honoured this often leads to feelings of stress.
For me, the foremost value is freedom. And (big surprise) I was totally outnumbered by those who ranked love more highly. The 'lurvvlies' may think me cold and callous but I just can't help feeling that the freedom to love or not to love is more important than love itself. A world where everybody freely loved, without prejudice, would be a wonderful thing. But as nice as it would be, i'm not prepared to forfeit freedom for it. Don't get me wrong - I'd give up my freedom for the sake of love but that sacrifice of freedom would ultimately be an exercise of individual freedom itself.
Digging a little deeper though, I wonder whether I'm confusing my means values and ends values, i.e. I value freedom because it is a means to love, that is to say, I use my freedom to choose to love. Now, one might say that the ends value is greater than the means value which all goes to suggest that, in fact, love is my foremost value. Nice to know I'm not so soulless and unfeeling after all. If you've not followed, don't worry. Not entirely sure I follow myself.
It all got really interesting when we started thinking about those things we distance ourselves from most, things like rejection, failure, humiliation, anger, depression, etc. Interestingly, I didn't fear loneliness as much as others. I wonder whether this is an indication that I am perhaps a little too independent for my own good...
R
Previously at life coaching, we had set some goals. Tonight, we were looking at values. Our values are indicative of what life means to us and why we do the things we do. And (worth noting) when our core values are not honoured this often leads to feelings of stress.
For me, the foremost value is freedom. And (big surprise) I was totally outnumbered by those who ranked love more highly. The 'lurvvlies' may think me cold and callous but I just can't help feeling that the freedom to love or not to love is more important than love itself. A world where everybody freely loved, without prejudice, would be a wonderful thing. But as nice as it would be, i'm not prepared to forfeit freedom for it. Don't get me wrong - I'd give up my freedom for the sake of love but that sacrifice of freedom would ultimately be an exercise of individual freedom itself.
Digging a little deeper though, I wonder whether I'm confusing my means values and ends values, i.e. I value freedom because it is a means to love, that is to say, I use my freedom to choose to love. Now, one might say that the ends value is greater than the means value which all goes to suggest that, in fact, love is my foremost value. Nice to know I'm not so soulless and unfeeling after all. If you've not followed, don't worry. Not entirely sure I follow myself.
It all got really interesting when we started thinking about those things we distance ourselves from most, things like rejection, failure, humiliation, anger, depression, etc. Interestingly, I didn't fear loneliness as much as others. I wonder whether this is an indication that I am perhaps a little too independent for my own good...
R