I swear I'm not crazy, just...female.
OK, I'm not engaged or anything, but since I undeniably possess a vagina, I do the stupid girl thing and like to plan my dream wedding. And hey, to be fair, I've been dating Doug for five years, so who knows; I might just be saving time for the future.
Also, I'm blaming Pat, 'cause he linked to Offbeat Brides.
My only issue is that Doug is undeniably conservative. (And before anyone goes off on how I'm crazy and fishing for a ring: yes, I am, and Doug is well aware. We've talked about it extensively. No need to make calls and sit him in the bar for an intervention.) I'm not. Probably a little more conservative than people realize, but I'm also obviously not.
As I've said, Doug and I have discussed this subject. We want to get married in the fall. We want a family wedding and reception with a non-denominational wedding, but also have our respective religious bindings entirely separate of that (Helenic betrothal and hand fasting for me, Thelemic wedding for him). We're also leaning on having the wedding outdoors. What we can't agree upon, though, is what kind of wedding we want.
He wants a traditional run of the mill wedding, far as I know. I want to not be bored, thus I want a theme.
I have three ideas, two of which I pitched and one I came up with right before my shower.
The first was a book themed wedding. I wanted to recycle old books that no one in our families even touch for centerpieces, leafing the edges in gold and stacking them, then having a floral piece in a recycled book vase on top, give out cheap poetry books or maybe even a collaborative piece we wrote and had printed by Lulu for our gift to the guests. I was going to hand make the cake out of lacquered newspaper and a cheap pocket book. Other things about the wedding were going to be based around literature we both like and have maybe art nouveau or '50s inspiration for more graphic elements.
I'm stupid and pitch all of these to Doug. He said that books are for reading and he respects them too much to use them as decorations. Ok, I get that, but no one was reading them. :|
Second idea, I realize is on a practical scale, but it's really cool and NO ONE will be bored by this wedding.
I want a mini carnival.
I mean, think about it! I remembered that scene in Big Fish where the main character meets his wife and everything slows down to a stop in the middle of the carnival and though it was one of the most romantic things. And it's also perfect for me, since I want to get married in a tea-length '50s inspired dress (see the picture I put up). Also, the lolita brand/store concept I have is Rose & Carousel, which is the thing I really, really want for this wedding. I want the officiant (by suggestion of an online friend) to dress like a carnival barker and at the reception, I want to have a gypsy rock band playing our music while there's a carousel, high bar (ya know, those strength test things), two game booths, popcorn and cotton candy in tents. Oh, and I'll get one of my friends to do fortune telling, if we don't do it ourselves. And on the other side of all the game stuff, I'll have more tents, but for the food and bar. I also want to save money, since we'd already have had spent quite a bit on the carnival stuff and the location, by serving home cooked food. And casual stuff that isn't so far off for a carnival. I told this to my friends on IRC and they were all, "I want to go to your wedding if you do this."
I called up Doug and told he about it again. He said I'm crazy and that he doesn't like carnivals. Who the hell doesn't like carnivals?! It's not like I was gonna have a clown there, and that's MY phobia, not his. That boy put on a rainbow 'fro and a red nose at his party this weekend and I wanted to punch him.
IRC said I need a new groom.
So last idea, which I haven't told him about yet: gamer. I really have no clue how to go about this other than the sweet cake that will a stack of rpg books, dice, a companion cube and Doug and myself rolling a Katamari of love on the top. I was thinking about having the officiant dress as Edgeworth, but then I'd want to marry the officiant instead.
Also, Doug's father rants about his views about video games all the time. And they're not favorable ones.
That cake would be awesome, though.
When I talked about all this to the IRC, the only male who also happens to be married pointed out something; weddings are more about the bride, and this is going to be even more true since Doug is getting his own wedding. My religious stuff could be done in three hours in our jeans for all I care, I just wanted a quick religious ceremony for myself don and out of the way. His is going to be more formal and it actually means more to him than mine do, since by my own religion's standards we're already married except in name. He was honestly surprised that Doug appears to so strongly want a traditional wedding.
I dunno, I'm largely ranting. I'm still ringless (at least, in regards to an engagement ring), and I do want to take his wants into consideration. I just also don't want to feel bored and tired at the end of my big day when it comes about, and in all honesty, neither of us see a future where we're NOT married.
I totally think people should convince him on giving in to my awesome crazy, though.
Oh yeah, and if any of you take my wedding ideas for their own with out my permission before I'm hitched, I'm murdering you. :3
Also, I'm blaming Pat, 'cause he linked to Offbeat Brides.
My only issue is that Doug is undeniably conservative. (And before anyone goes off on how I'm crazy and fishing for a ring: yes, I am, and Doug is well aware. We've talked about it extensively. No need to make calls and sit him in the bar for an intervention.) I'm not. Probably a little more conservative than people realize, but I'm also obviously not.
As I've said, Doug and I have discussed this subject. We want to get married in the fall. We want a family wedding and reception with a non-denominational wedding, but also have our respective religious bindings entirely separate of that (Helenic betrothal and hand fasting for me, Thelemic wedding for him). We're also leaning on having the wedding outdoors. What we can't agree upon, though, is what kind of wedding we want.
He wants a traditional run of the mill wedding, far as I know. I want to not be bored, thus I want a theme.
I have three ideas, two of which I pitched and one I came up with right before my shower.
The first was a book themed wedding. I wanted to recycle old books that no one in our families even touch for centerpieces, leafing the edges in gold and stacking them, then having a floral piece in a recycled book vase on top, give out cheap poetry books or maybe even a collaborative piece we wrote and had printed by Lulu for our gift to the guests. I was going to hand make the cake out of lacquered newspaper and a cheap pocket book. Other things about the wedding were going to be based around literature we both like and have maybe art nouveau or '50s inspiration for more graphic elements.
I'm stupid and pitch all of these to Doug. He said that books are for reading and he respects them too much to use them as decorations. Ok, I get that, but no one was reading them. :|
Second idea, I realize is on a practical scale, but it's really cool and NO ONE will be bored by this wedding.
I want a mini carnival.
I mean, think about it! I remembered that scene in Big Fish where the main character meets his wife and everything slows down to a stop in the middle of the carnival and though it was one of the most romantic things. And it's also perfect for me, since I want to get married in a tea-length '50s inspired dress (see the picture I put up). Also, the lolita brand/store concept I have is Rose & Carousel, which is the thing I really, really want for this wedding. I want the officiant (by suggestion of an online friend) to dress like a carnival barker and at the reception, I want to have a gypsy rock band playing our music while there's a carousel, high bar (ya know, those strength test things), two game booths, popcorn and cotton candy in tents. Oh, and I'll get one of my friends to do fortune telling, if we don't do it ourselves. And on the other side of all the game stuff, I'll have more tents, but for the food and bar. I also want to save money, since we'd already have had spent quite a bit on the carnival stuff and the location, by serving home cooked food. And casual stuff that isn't so far off for a carnival. I told this to my friends on IRC and they were all, "I want to go to your wedding if you do this."
I called up Doug and told he about it again. He said I'm crazy and that he doesn't like carnivals. Who the hell doesn't like carnivals?! It's not like I was gonna have a clown there, and that's MY phobia, not his. That boy put on a rainbow 'fro and a red nose at his party this weekend and I wanted to punch him.
IRC said I need a new groom.
So last idea, which I haven't told him about yet: gamer. I really have no clue how to go about this other than the sweet cake that will a stack of rpg books, dice, a companion cube and Doug and myself rolling a Katamari of love on the top. I was thinking about having the officiant dress as Edgeworth, but then I'd want to marry the officiant instead.
Also, Doug's father rants about his views about video games all the time. And they're not favorable ones.
That cake would be awesome, though.
When I talked about all this to the IRC, the only male who also happens to be married pointed out something; weddings are more about the bride, and this is going to be even more true since Doug is getting his own wedding. My religious stuff could be done in three hours in our jeans for all I care, I just wanted a quick religious ceremony for myself don and out of the way. His is going to be more formal and it actually means more to him than mine do, since by my own religion's standards we're already married except in name. He was honestly surprised that Doug appears to so strongly want a traditional wedding.
I dunno, I'm largely ranting. I'm still ringless (at least, in regards to an engagement ring), and I do want to take his wants into consideration. I just also don't want to feel bored and tired at the end of my big day when it comes about, and in all honesty, neither of us see a future where we're NOT married.
I totally think people should convince him on giving in to my awesome crazy, though.
Oh yeah, and if any of you take my wedding ideas for their own with out my permission before I'm hitched, I'm murdering you. :3