Don't Read This

[roscoep_butters]

I can't believe I'm writing this but I cant help it. Jami has finally broken up with me. Or being truthful, finally openly admitted that she doesn't love me anymore which has been true for months. You know its kind of funny, this is normally this last thing anyone would actually use livejournal for, to tell the whole world something personal. But I

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Ross

[gabenichols]

We're still your friends but you have to understand how we were seeing this, there were months when after speaking to you Jami would be in tears. I understand you thought you were getting over the rough patch and moving on but a relationship needs to work for both people. This relationship for the past year has not been working for Jami. She tried, she really tried, often against the advice of numerous friends and her own better instincts but you guys just really didn't have that much in common. Relationships need friendship and shared enjoyment of company in order to form a basis. No matter how much you love each other if you don't enjoy spending time together it won't work. Jami loves horses and long hikes through unmarked paths in the woods. You, well ... don't.

It's hard, it is always hard when a relationship ends, but in the end this will be for the best. You can find someone who is more in tune with the way in which you want to live your life. Jami will too.

If this sounded at all harsh, I'm sorry but I respect you enough to truly tell you how I feel. I'm very sorry that you are unhappy but time will help.

Gabe

Re: Ross

[roscoep_butters]

Gabe, I'm going to try and be brief. Your reply was really outside the limits of decent. You described my relationship with Jami of three years as not based on friendship, and spending time together. You brought up personal things that passed between us with neither my nor Jami's permission. Could I return in kind? I cried after those same calls. I forgave Jami as often as she did me, and likewise often against the advice of friends. I don't want to have to respond to these ignorant, arrogent and above all condescending and insulting comments from people like you who honestly know nothing of us. I already really stretched the bounds of acceptable public demonstration but you have completely violated it, and in addition insulted everything I hold dear about Jami. I dont want any kind of response from you, don't even think of apologizing to me. I dont know enough about this site to know if you can remove this post, but if you can please do. It is ruining an otherwise unbelievable outpouring from people who I respect and care for. You'll note Jami's, referring to my deepest fear, that our friendship will not survive this. And I'd like to request that you no longer read my livejournal, I know its sopposed to be public, but you interacting at all with my personal life makes me feel really uncomfortable. I repeat, don't respond to this in any other way than to politely and quietly remove it if you can.