Pet names don't bother me in the slightest! (Not when they're used affectionately, at least. I call most of my students "sweetheart" but it usually means I'm mad at them. "Sweetheart, I need you to stop hitting him, or we're gonna have to talk about this, honey.")
So far I've found some really excellent people (present company included) who are sane and thoughtful and respectful and able to have a version of the boys in their heads for fic, and a completely separate and sane appreciation for the in-real-life boys who are probably nothing like that and shouldn't be expected to behave that way. I have also found absolutely terrifying tin hatters who are old enough to know better and are rude and nasty people. I have given myself permission to defriend/unfollow at will if someone is making me uncomfortable, where normally I wouldn't. This fandom is just too horrible to feel guilt over that kind of thing.
But no matter what the boys themselves are a source of absolute joy and delight and every single day I find something new to enjoy, whether it's Liam and Louis having a nerf gun war or everyone ripping Harry's shirt off because they are assholes. ♥ I'm trying to focus on the positive.
"This fandom is just too horrible to feel guilt over that kind of thing." Ugh, you can say that again. I have never ever unfollowed somebody on Tumblr or defriended them on LJ before last week, but today alone it has happened four times. It is just too much to feel constantly ill at the level of terrible, no one decent could stomach it.
I am mostly just incredibly thankful that it seems like the boys haven't been too bothered by recent goings on. They are still adorable and affectionate and magical, and I had been incredibly terrified that the things happening recently would make them shy away from that a little. I'm just so, so glad that they haven't done that for a plethora of reasons. (They actually almost seem MORE affectionate in the past couple of days than they had for a while before that? Potentially I am projecting, here.)
Unfollowing or defriending is the only way to handle some of this fandom, honestly. Even Liam had a bit of a breakdown on twitter yesterday, so you know things are genuinely rough in the 1D camp right now. I feel like if you can push Liam to swearing -- even if he turned around and was adorable about it later, of course he was, he's Liam -- then you have gone so far past acceptable you can't even see the line anymore.
I THINK SO TOO. Sorry, it's my own personal conspiracy theory. (I don't think management would give a fuck if one of them were gay, particularly not Simon Cowell, who loves Adam Lambert.) I genuinely have been wondering if the other boys have been stepping up their physical affection to distract everyone and take some of the pressure off Harry and Louis lately, because they have been out-of-control handsy on stage and off, wrestling and sitting on each other and genuinely going, "Me! I love my bandmates, look at me!!!!" and it's been a HUGE increase in Niall and Zayn in particular suddenly being all over everyone. If that's what they're doing it's absolutely lovely and I love them even more than usual for it. ♥
So far I've found some really excellent people (present company included) who are sane and thoughtful and respectful and able to have a version of the boys in their heads for fic, and a completely separate and sane appreciation for the in-real-life boys who are probably nothing like that and shouldn't be expected to behave that way. I have also found absolutely terrifying tin hatters who are old enough to know better and are rude and nasty people. I have given myself permission to defriend/unfollow at will if someone is making me uncomfortable, where normally I wouldn't. This fandom is just too horrible to feel guilt over that kind of thing.
But no matter what the boys themselves are a source of absolute joy and delight and every single day I find something new to enjoy, whether it's Liam and Louis having a nerf gun war or everyone ripping Harry's shirt off because they are assholes. ♥ I'm trying to focus on the positive.
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"This fandom is just too horrible to feel guilt over that kind of thing." Ugh, you can say that again. I have never ever unfollowed somebody on Tumblr or defriended them on LJ before last week, but today alone it has happened four times. It is just too much to feel constantly ill at the level of terrible, no one decent could stomach it.
I am mostly just incredibly thankful that it seems like the boys haven't been too bothered by recent goings on. They are still adorable and affectionate and magical, and I had been incredibly terrified that the things happening recently would make them shy away from that a little. I'm just so, so glad that they haven't done that for a plethora of reasons. (They actually almost seem MORE affectionate in the past couple of days than they had for a while before that? Potentially I am projecting, here.)
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I THINK SO TOO. Sorry, it's my own personal conspiracy theory. (I don't think management would give a fuck if one of them were gay, particularly not Simon Cowell, who loves Adam Lambert.) I genuinely have been wondering if the other boys have been stepping up their physical affection to distract everyone and take some of the pressure off Harry and Louis lately, because they have been out-of-control handsy on stage and off, wrestling and sitting on each other and genuinely going, "Me! I love my bandmates, look at me!!!!" and it's been a HUGE increase in Niall and Zayn in particular suddenly being all over everyone. If that's what they're doing it's absolutely lovely and I love them even more than usual for it. ♥
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