The High Cost of Due Process
Well, the leaves are turning, and there is a cold bite in the air; which tells me that winter will soon be here. I saw frost for the first time on my car, and realized that October is nearly finished. I love this time of year most of all, namely for my birthday (earlier this month), but the three major holidays that follow in the next three months. I think I also enjoy the change from Fall to Winter in New England because it is so dramatic; and in some ways very abrupt. But there is something comforting about the leaves in the wind, the chill air, and the clear skies, seen thru tiny puffs of steam from my mouth. Of course, Rosie would disagree strongly. She finds nothing comforting about the cold, and would rather be digging her toes into the sand on the beaches of Miami. When I told her this morning that the temperature was 32 degrees, she looked a little panicky; knowing that winter was coming but unable to prevent it.
There has been a change at the Yale campus as well. The students have returned and work has picked up noticeably. The students look so young, many of pass me by, and I wonder if they are able to drink... or vote...or even legally drive a car. When surrounded by such young faces, I feel a little old, and out of place.
My Co-Worker is leaving for a week vacation this Monday, and the "reins of power" have been handed over to me for the time being. The powers that be look upon this with a little nervousness, and I suspect that they are not completely confident that I am ready to be on my own. For me, this is an opportunity to shine, or burn in flames; and either outcome will make a lasting impression while I remain here.
Within a week or so, Rosie and I will be headed back to court to continue legal battle with her Ex-Husband. This Custody battle has been going on for over six months now, and has mushroomed into many bitter arguments both in and out of court. Before this whole thing has started, the sum of my Legal knowledge was fairly small, and contained what I could remember from High School and from TV and Movies. It has been an enlightening, frustrating, and expensive journey; to the tune of about fifty dollars’ an hour (my estimate). To those of you who read this, and can't relate...be thankful. To those of you who are divorced but have never had to go to court, count your blessings. While he/she can be a royal pain in the ass; at least you can come to an agreement with your "Ex". It was somewhat of an empty victory when the court appointed Professional mediator had said that Rosie's Ex-husband was "argumentative, abusive, and unreasonable". He had filed a series of erroneous Contempt charges against Rosie, and the Judge threw them out; but warned the both of them that they need to work together in the best interests of Oskar. And while I do believe that eventually we will get what we are looking for, it will come at a cost.
There has been a change at the Yale campus as well. The students have returned and work has picked up noticeably. The students look so young, many of pass me by, and I wonder if they are able to drink... or vote...or even legally drive a car. When surrounded by such young faces, I feel a little old, and out of place.
My Co-Worker is leaving for a week vacation this Monday, and the "reins of power" have been handed over to me for the time being. The powers that be look upon this with a little nervousness, and I suspect that they are not completely confident that I am ready to be on my own. For me, this is an opportunity to shine, or burn in flames; and either outcome will make a lasting impression while I remain here.
Within a week or so, Rosie and I will be headed back to court to continue legal battle with her Ex-Husband. This Custody battle has been going on for over six months now, and has mushroomed into many bitter arguments both in and out of court. Before this whole thing has started, the sum of my Legal knowledge was fairly small, and contained what I could remember from High School and from TV and Movies. It has been an enlightening, frustrating, and expensive journey; to the tune of about fifty dollars’ an hour (my estimate). To those of you who read this, and can't relate...be thankful. To those of you who are divorced but have never had to go to court, count your blessings. While he/she can be a royal pain in the ass; at least you can come to an agreement with your "Ex". It was somewhat of an empty victory when the court appointed Professional mediator had said that Rosie's Ex-husband was "argumentative, abusive, and unreasonable". He had filed a series of erroneous Contempt charges against Rosie, and the Judge threw them out; but warned the both of them that they need to work together in the best interests of Oskar. And while I do believe that eventually we will get what we are looking for, it will come at a cost.