My First Poll!

[rokitwoman]

Poll Parental Consent

Don't shoot me for restricting this to a heterosexual couple, this stems from an argument/debate that I had with a male friend of mine. I'll post his thoughts and mine after I get the results back.

Comments

[alteredhistory]

Asking for permission would be appropriate only if she is a minor, in which case it is legally required. But assuming we're talking adults, then asking for permission is frankly crass. She may choose to ask her parents for permission if that's the kind of relationship that she has with her parents, but the guy shouldn't. Asking for blessing is appropriate for two reasons. a) it makes the parents (particularly Dad) feel better. b) if they don't give approval, the couple can then decide how to proceed. If you announce you're getting married and then find out there's opposition from the parents, things can get awkward to the point of crashing the relationship. Personally, I'd suggest if you're going to ask for a blessing, you should ask *both* sets of parents, and the couple should approach both sets together, rather than just they guy approaching the girl's parents. The mother and father of the groom can be just as problematic as the mother/father of the bride, and the couple united can do a better job than the guy handling a pair of people he doesn't know so well.