Does the sanctity of marriage truly exist?
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Okay. I'll elaborate. "Sanctify" means to set apart as sacred, also to entitle to reverence and respect. So yes, the sanctity of marriage exists if the people in that marriage treat it as such. I don't mean sanctified in the sense of any one particular religion but in the sense of "This is something I hold dear. I will be committed to it. I will respect it. I will honor it." I try and do all of those things in my marriage.
That doesn't make it easy and it certainly doesn't mean that I'm always successful. Jillian can tell you there have been a lot of missed dinners, canceled vacations, late nights, interrupted days off... There are a lot of times when someone looking at us from the outside could point and say "He's more invested in his career than he is his marriage". I'm sure people have said it more than once when they've watched me leave my wife in a restaurant because I've been paged, or when the sitter has to bring Richie somewhere and I was supposed to. What they miss is that I am honoring my marriage.
My work schedule, Jillian staying home with our son, these are things that we agreed on together in order to make our life work. Jillian made the decision to be at home with our son full-time. It's a compromise she's made for me, for Richie, for our marriage and there's not a day that I don't realize that and appreciate the fact she has made the same commitment that I have because my life wouldn't work otherwise. I know when Jilly made that decision that there were a lot of her friends who didn't support it or understand it but they weren't in our marriage.
And hopefully it's a matter of give and take. When Richie is old enough for school and she may decide to go back and finish her degree and get a job and that will be my time to step up and show my family the same commitment and respect that she's shown and arrange my work accordingly. It would be easier for both of us if we didn't have to compromise. If we'd just arrange it so wed' both have what we wanted exactly how we wanted it at the same time. Except marriage isn't so simple but it is worth it. I believed that when Jillian and I got married, I believe it now and I'm going to still believe it in five years and into the future.
Does the sanctity of marriage truly exist? Yeah. My marriage is sacred because my wife and I sanctify it every day.
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Okay. I'll elaborate. "Sanctify" means to set apart as sacred, also to entitle to reverence and respect. So yes, the sanctity of marriage exists if the people in that marriage treat it as such. I don't mean sanctified in the sense of any one particular religion but in the sense of "This is something I hold dear. I will be committed to it. I will respect it. I will honor it." I try and do all of those things in my marriage.
That doesn't make it easy and it certainly doesn't mean that I'm always successful. Jillian can tell you there have been a lot of missed dinners, canceled vacations, late nights, interrupted days off... There are a lot of times when someone looking at us from the outside could point and say "He's more invested in his career than he is his marriage". I'm sure people have said it more than once when they've watched me leave my wife in a restaurant because I've been paged, or when the sitter has to bring Richie somewhere and I was supposed to. What they miss is that I am honoring my marriage.
My work schedule, Jillian staying home with our son, these are things that we agreed on together in order to make our life work. Jillian made the decision to be at home with our son full-time. It's a compromise she's made for me, for Richie, for our marriage and there's not a day that I don't realize that and appreciate the fact she has made the same commitment that I have because my life wouldn't work otherwise. I know when Jilly made that decision that there were a lot of her friends who didn't support it or understand it but they weren't in our marriage.
And hopefully it's a matter of give and take. When Richie is old enough for school and she may decide to go back and finish her degree and get a job and that will be my time to step up and show my family the same commitment and respect that she's shown and arrange my work accordingly. It would be easier for both of us if we didn't have to compromise. If we'd just arrange it so wed' both have what we wanted exactly how we wanted it at the same time. Except marriage isn't so simple but it is worth it. I believed that when Jillian and I got married, I believe it now and I'm going to still believe it in five years and into the future.
Does the sanctity of marriage truly exist? Yeah. My marriage is sacred because my wife and I sanctify it every day.