ADVICE: Cousin Rude to Person in Public
QUESTION:
Why are some peolpe so mean to you?
My cousin only talks to me when she's my herself but if she with her friends; she stares at me, she ignores me & she tells people she showed me how to dress & dance!!! Which of course its totally untrue she the one copying me, she buys the same pair of jeans & the exact shirt...ohhh she just q on my nervous but i try to be nice!!! Why do u think she's like that?
REPLY:
It sounds like your cousin has some Insecurity Issues that she has to deal with. She's okay with confiding in you in private and when there's no one around. However, when she's with her friends whom she's trying to impress, she tries to put up on an act.
It could be that the friends she's with have expectations of her so she tries to live up to those expectations of being cool by taking an air of condescension so that it creates the facade of Superiority, which is unfortunately at your expense.
The interesting thing is that she's pushing forward her version of events, and since you don't say anything, she wins by default. Don't be surprised that if you speak out or say that's untrue embarrassing her in front of her friends by providing a rebuttal, she will most likely get mad at you.
Maybe you don't have to confront her in such a manner, but I can say that if you continue to tolerate that behavior, it can get worse and even spill into her adult life where she'll be doing the same thing if someone doesn't keep her in check.
The ways he stares at you and ignores you in public is not very nice. If she wants to hang out with you in private, you should start impressing some rules of etiquette regarding what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior.
You should explain to her how her behavior is inconsiderate and ask how she'd feel if the situation was reversed if you did those things to her in front of your friends treating her like a social outcast, but being two-faced about it where she's fine with accepting your company when her friends are around.
Why are some peolpe so mean to you?
My cousin only talks to me when she's my herself but if she with her friends; she stares at me, she ignores me & she tells people she showed me how to dress & dance!!! Which of course its totally untrue she the one copying me, she buys the same pair of jeans & the exact shirt...ohhh she just q on my nervous but i try to be nice!!! Why do u think she's like that?
REPLY:
It sounds like your cousin has some Insecurity Issues that she has to deal with. She's okay with confiding in you in private and when there's no one around. However, when she's with her friends whom she's trying to impress, she tries to put up on an act.
It could be that the friends she's with have expectations of her so she tries to live up to those expectations of being cool by taking an air of condescension so that it creates the facade of Superiority, which is unfortunately at your expense.
The interesting thing is that she's pushing forward her version of events, and since you don't say anything, she wins by default. Don't be surprised that if you speak out or say that's untrue embarrassing her in front of her friends by providing a rebuttal, she will most likely get mad at you.
Maybe you don't have to confront her in such a manner, but I can say that if you continue to tolerate that behavior, it can get worse and even spill into her adult life where she'll be doing the same thing if someone doesn't keep her in check.
The ways he stares at you and ignores you in public is not very nice. If she wants to hang out with you in private, you should start impressing some rules of etiquette regarding what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior.
You should explain to her how her behavior is inconsiderate and ask how she'd feel if the situation was reversed if you did those things to her in front of your friends treating her like a social outcast, but being two-faced about it where she's fine with accepting your company when her friends are around.