Words of wisdom from C.S. Lewis
"We use a most unfortunate idioim when we say, of a lustful man prowling the streets, that he 'wants a woman.' Strictly speaking, a woman is just what he does not want. He wants a pleasure for which a woman happens to be the necessary piece of apparatus. How much he cares about the woman as such may be gauged by his attitude to her five minutes after the fruition (one does not keep the carton after one has smoked the cigarettes.)"