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so, i read this thing a short while ago about people in monogamous relationships and how people cheat on their spouse/significant other, what constitutes cheating, polygamous husband vs. monogamous wife, etc. it was very interesting but it left me with a lot of questions, the most important of which is (and this is a question, not a judgement):
how does love for one person and attraction to another become equally convenient/inconvenient/present? basically how can you love someone and be attracted to someone else just as much? actually what i am really trying to ask in even plainer english is what happens when you are attracted to someone as much as you love your significant other? are you forced by nature to sleep with them? is it possible to say no? is it possible not to say no? i just really don't understand the inner workings of the part of the human brain that deals with emotion and attraction. i mean, yeah were all human but still, why do some people cheat and some don't? is it because the people who do cheat just can't love someone as much as the people who don't? can they but they just don't? i just don't understand. and this is actually a very interesting subject to me, especially the part about polygamous husband vs. monogamous wife because that part kinda talked about what happens when the polygamous husband catches the monogamous wife cheating. very hypocritical, yes, but nevertheless, if you know what you are getting yourself into and you are supposed to be monogamous even though your husband isn't and you KNOW that upon getting married, and you understand what that means, exactly, then it is cheating. no matter how you look at it. not saying that makes the wife a bad person, just saying it still counts.
but what is cheating anyway? yes there are consequences for everything. yes for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. but what if cheating on your significant other is the reaction and not the action? what then? i don't know i just don't understand it, i suppose because since i have been with michael, i haven't been especially attracted to any other person to know exactly how it feels to not be able to control yourself or to not be able to control your emotions. i don't know, i just never thought about it but that was a really interesting thing.
how does love for one person and attraction to another become equally convenient/inconvenient/present? basically how can you love someone and be attracted to someone else just as much? actually what i am really trying to ask in even plainer english is what happens when you are attracted to someone as much as you love your significant other? are you forced by nature to sleep with them? is it possible to say no? is it possible not to say no? i just really don't understand the inner workings of the part of the human brain that deals with emotion and attraction. i mean, yeah were all human but still, why do some people cheat and some don't? is it because the people who do cheat just can't love someone as much as the people who don't? can they but they just don't? i just don't understand. and this is actually a very interesting subject to me, especially the part about polygamous husband vs. monogamous wife because that part kinda talked about what happens when the polygamous husband catches the monogamous wife cheating. very hypocritical, yes, but nevertheless, if you know what you are getting yourself into and you are supposed to be monogamous even though your husband isn't and you KNOW that upon getting married, and you understand what that means, exactly, then it is cheating. no matter how you look at it. not saying that makes the wife a bad person, just saying it still counts.
but what is cheating anyway? yes there are consequences for everything. yes for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. but what if cheating on your significant other is the reaction and not the action? what then? i don't know i just don't understand it, i suppose because since i have been with michael, i haven't been especially attracted to any other person to know exactly how it feels to not be able to control yourself or to not be able to control your emotions. i don't know, i just never thought about it but that was a really interesting thing.