Purr thank you! This question surprised me when I had to sort out what really were the most important three life changes I went through. They aren't the obvious. Crises are old hat, that's just trouble, I had plenty of it and so much of it related both to denial of my disability (causing trouble by both me and others expecting me to be capable of things I'm not) and then coming out about it only to find out how deep that shame ran. It's bad enough if other people are bigoted, but it's sick to wind up bigoted against myself and I thought I'd gone past that.