There's a fine, fine line / between a fairy tale and a lie

[rm_renfield]

"There's a fine, fine line / between reality and pretend / and you never know 'til you reach the top if it was worth the uphill climb / there's a fine, fine line / between love and a waste of time... I guess if someone doesn't love you back, it isn't such a crime

Comments

[jchance]

Some good comments here--I just have to add that "in your league" is plain bullshit, at least once you get out of high-school popularity rankings. Yeah, statistically, people ranked as similarly attractive are more likely to end up together. But, individually, people's preferences vary so much that _all_ you can say is that any semi-healthy couple are attracted to each other. I think a lot of your problem, and of the reason the numbers are so small, is trying to calculate for an "appropriate" match rather than letting yourself be random, and aim "higher" or, for that matter, "lower" than you expect.

That said, depending on how you mean it, there may be something to "stopping trying." If you mean taking a break from worrying about dating and making it a priority, I have to support that. Take some time to concentrate on just living, working on yourself including but not limited to confidence, and so on. And I know I'm a funny one to talk about confidence, but as nervous as I still can be, I've improved by leaps and bounds since high school or even my divorce.