The race track
A colleague at work is an avid gambler. He goes to the racetrack on a weekly basis and does well. He invited a few of us to join him on Thursday nights. So this friend of mine is promiscuous ("player") and is constantly attracting the wrong type of girls. I think he had an epiphany sometime last week and realized that he needs to look for someone to settle down with.
He met this girl at a baseball game, she had a boyfriend at the time, but they still exchanged numbers. She contacted him and they ended up hanging out. As it turns out, she ends up breaking up with her boyfriend and is now dating my friend.
He is feeling kind of guilty, and my thoughts on the matter are that it was already going to end. He was not the cause of the break up, they were obviously not getting along and she was not willing to give it any more effort. In my opinion, he had nothing to do with it, cause in the end it was them that destroyed what ever once was there, and he just happen to be at the right place at the right time.
I am a firm believer that people only do what they want to do, especially when it comes to relationships. No one has influence over someone else's feelings, hey sometimes we don't even have control over our own feelings. Therefore if a relationship ends, it has to be because one of the parties was not happy, and if one of the two people in the relationship is not happy, than end it. If you really think about it, it applies to relationships in general, if you have a friend that you really don't like to hang out with after a few times you’ve gone out than you end it. Sometimes it's even a childhood friend that you grew up with, that now has different ideals than you and a 20 year relationship goes out the window, and it's not because a "better" friend came along and stole you, it's because you were just not working out.
Same goes for all relationships, if it's already broken, someone can't come along and break it again.
He met this girl at a baseball game, she had a boyfriend at the time, but they still exchanged numbers. She contacted him and they ended up hanging out. As it turns out, she ends up breaking up with her boyfriend and is now dating my friend.
He is feeling kind of guilty, and my thoughts on the matter are that it was already going to end. He was not the cause of the break up, they were obviously not getting along and she was not willing to give it any more effort. In my opinion, he had nothing to do with it, cause in the end it was them that destroyed what ever once was there, and he just happen to be at the right place at the right time.
I am a firm believer that people only do what they want to do, especially when it comes to relationships. No one has influence over someone else's feelings, hey sometimes we don't even have control over our own feelings. Therefore if a relationship ends, it has to be because one of the parties was not happy, and if one of the two people in the relationship is not happy, than end it. If you really think about it, it applies to relationships in general, if you have a friend that you really don't like to hang out with after a few times you’ve gone out than you end it. Sometimes it's even a childhood friend that you grew up with, that now has different ideals than you and a 20 year relationship goes out the window, and it's not because a "better" friend came along and stole you, it's because you were just not working out.
Same goes for all relationships, if it's already broken, someone can't come along and break it again.