I see what you're saying, but I'm like, srsly facepalming. So theoretically, what you're saying is that if someone just sees a girl and a guy talking, they automatically assume "couple". It has come to my attention lately just how much people even here seem to believe that relationships across gender only exist for partnering purposes; that people of opposite gender "can't just be friends".
From what you say paired with anthropological understanding, people in their 20s by large have an overriding imperative to mate/pair-bond and pass on their genes. In the social construct, being seen with a member of the opposite sex who is not a potential mate harms the chance of genetic fitness, and therefore is avoided both consciously and instinctually.
Still facepalming.
But this gets better...if I were to guess, when fertility/virility start waning? (This logic would deduce...)
At least it's not an oppressive view of women as only useful as housewives and baby machines as I thought/as largely prevails in Japan to this day.
I have excess pairs of shoes, too. I got a pair of leather shoes b/c my partner was complaining that the trainers I still wear daily were ugly. They made my feet bleed profusely. That aside, my partner orders shoes online, and when they don't fit, gives me all these high heels which I can't walk in and have no interest in. I only wear my Saucony running sneakers, and I asked her to put the rest on craigslist. I do need a pair of nice loafers/flats, but as far as I'm concerned one only needs three pairs. Practical shoes for the daily, dress shoes (if you dress for work, these might be your daily) and house slippers. Of course, if you need work boots or uniform shoes for school or work, then you need four.
The thing is, though, I have little eye or concern for fasion. I think this is where I fail to understand most other women, indeed, including my partner. She, in shoe shopping, spends what feels to me an inordinate amount of time deliberating which shoes are cuter and which colour they look best in and so on. I had a friend for whom every paycheck meant a new pair of shoes. Again, you explain it in a way that makes it more comprehensible to an outsider like me. I'm very apathetic toward fasion. I'm most comfortable going out in a casual collared button-down/polo shirt, a comfortable, plain pair of Levi's and the aforementioned sneakers.
I'm almost 27. If you can apply the term "tomboy" to grown women, that's probably what I am.
I see what you're saying, but I'm like, srsly facepalming. So theoretically, what you're saying is that if someone just sees a girl and a guy talking, they automatically assume "couple". It has come to my attention lately just how much people even here seem to believe that relationships across gender only exist for partnering purposes; that people of opposite gender "can't just be friends".
From what you say paired with anthropological understanding, people in their 20s by large have an overriding imperative to mate/pair-bond and pass on their genes. In the social construct, being seen with a member of the opposite sex who is not a potential mate harms the chance of genetic fitness, and therefore is avoided both consciously and instinctually.
Still facepalming.
But this gets better...if I were to guess, when fertility/virility start waning? (This logic would deduce...)
At least it's not an oppressive view of women as only useful as housewives and baby machines as I thought/as largely prevails in Japan to this day.
I have excess pairs of shoes, too. I got a pair of leather shoes b/c my partner was complaining that the trainers I still wear daily were ugly. They made my feet bleed profusely. That aside, my partner orders shoes online, and when they don't fit, gives me all these high heels which I can't walk in and have no interest in. I only wear my Saucony running sneakers, and I asked her to put the rest on craigslist. I do need a pair of nice loafers/flats, but as far as I'm concerned one only needs three pairs. Practical shoes for the daily, dress shoes (if you dress for work, these might be your daily) and house slippers. Of course, if you need work boots or uniform shoes for school or work, then you need four.
The thing is, though, I have little eye or concern for fasion. I think this is where I fail to understand most other women, indeed, including my partner. She, in shoe shopping, spends what feels to me an inordinate amount of time deliberating which shoes are cuter and which colour they look best in and so on. I had a friend for whom every paycheck meant a new pair of shoes. Again, you explain it in a way that makes it more comprehensible to an outsider like me. I'm very apathetic toward fasion. I'm most comfortable going out in a casual collared button-down/polo shirt, a comfortable, plain pair of Levi's and the aforementioned sneakers.
I'm almost 27. If you can apply the term "tomboy" to grown women, that's probably what I am.
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