Comments | richenda: Reunions via the Internet

richenda

Reunions via the Internet

Oct 10, 2008 08:45

About ten years ago, someone posted a photograph of me on the internet as a picture of herself. I found this rather flattering, since she was ten years younger than I, and yet clearly thought that the photograph was, in some way, more flattering than her own ( Read more... )

acquaintances, reminiscing

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vilakins October 10 2008, 09:24:52 UTC

She should be OK if she just gives her first name and enough details of shared school memories to identify her only to the friend. If she's worried about contact, she could use a hotmail or Gmail account set up just for the purpose.

richenda October 10 2008, 15:12:59 UTC

That's a good idea - if it is a relation, she will also presumably know which school the relation attended, or at the very least where it was.

glitterboy1 October 10 2008, 17:22:40 UTC

I was just about to say pretty much what vilakins has said! Your friend shouldn't need to give out very many details in order to make her enquiry obviously genuine - school, town, first name - and her schoolfriend's first name.

Actually, one of the difficult things about sending a message out of the blue is making the subject something that doesn't sound like spam!

I'm sorry that you had those troubles in the past. It was a very strange thing to happen, and I can well imagine it having strange effects. I hope your current approach is at least nothing worse than inconvenient at times.

ldygwynedd October 12 2008, 22:54:07 UTC

I use the old fashioned tactic of avoiding people I'd just as soon as not deal with by making my journal entirely friends only. Then I can be as candid as I wish without fear.

I meet new friends through introductions from old trusted friends.

Since I've established this policy, I've never had a problem on line.

richenda October 13 2008, 07:10:54 UTC

That's very wise - but her particular problem is that she'd like to contact the school friend, but doesn't want to be mistaken for a "scary stalker" if the person isn't a family member.
The only snag to your approach is that I've made a lot of friends IRL by having journals and posts that are open to everyone and anyone, which I wouldn't have made otherwise - but I'm thinking of creating an additional Friends Only journal - only snag there is that I probably spend too much time online as it is without having two journals. Sigh!