I've often felt the same way. At least you're finishing something though, because due to indecision I'm facing another three years of hard labor before I graduate, and I already feel old because I should be finishing by now. But it also sucks to finish and not know if that's really what you want. I get jealous of Adrienne's ability (though she might claim otherwise) to focus in such an extreme way and get things done. She always seems to have a plan.
In the end, I think its best to choose your own path and deal with the consequences, and not take anything so seriously you would get depressed if you weren't at some stereotyped point in your life where you are supposed to be at one age or another, because you have to ask yourself--according to who?
You know, it's really creepy Rian, because over here I look around sometimes and the people I knew as a child that are my age are almost ALL married or about to be married, and it's so weird because then I think--is that where I'm supposed to be in my life, what I'm "supposed" to be doing? Is it okay not to, and not to want to?
Because of the differences in circumstances it's also hard to have anything in common with people my age around here, and therefore hard to make friendships based on that kind of connection.
Your brother is how old that he's joining the air force? He must around the same age as my brother, he's turning eighteen soon. I have the pics of you and him and his friend that one time we all went bowling, along with the others. I'm very sorry that I haven't sent them yet like I promised, but I do have them all organized, I just have to go down to the post office with a couple of bucks, which unfortunately might be a bit, but I will as soon as possible.
Well, it's nice to know I'm not alone here, but sucks that it's happening at all.
Man, three more years? That sounds pretty extreme. So, what are you thinking of now?
Yes, I'm jealous of her ability too. I'm continually amazed at everything she takes in. Yes, it seems like she's always had a plan. I guess maybe it was the same one. I guess she's a little more reality-based than I want to be. I think I "dream" too much and then what I'm doing doesn't sound as great as what the new thing in my head has become. I dont think Adrienne is a dreamer.
Yea, people getting married is creepy. I've got a couple of friends who are engaged or upset that their boyfriends haven't proposed yet and I keep thinking "You are out of your mind!" Marriage is a really big deal. And I don't think it's something to rush into. No, I don't think that's where your life is supposed to be right now and I don't think it's bad to not want to and I think it's good not to.
However, I'm from the school of thought that feels that you're allowed to (and maybe even supposed to) be selfish and self-centered when you're young. When you get married and have children you loose those privileges. So, you have to accomplish what you can now and settle down when the timing is right and your life is stable.
Personally, I think it's stupid to get married so young. But, I've never been in love, so maybe it's not stupid to those who are. But I think it's such a waste to say, "This is how my life is going to be" when you haven't really experienced life yet. I guess what it comes down to for me is that I don't really feel like an adult yet. I don't think I've experienced enough. And the idea of marriage is such an adult concept to me that I don't think I'm ready for or will be ready for any time soon. Plus, it's not like I'm dating anyone, so who would I marry?
I do think it's harder to make friends with people when you move. Especially when it's to places where every seems to have known each other since kindergarten. But, just relax, eventually friends will come.
I've had some luck with friends. Most are a couple years older than I am, but it's not really a big deal. However the closest friend I've made actually started out as my professor and now she's one of my bosses. Plus she's 57. So, I think that sounds a little odd, but I really like her as a friend. So, maybe you just have to keep an open mind to who will and won't be a good friend.
My brother turned 18 in January. He graduated earlier this month. His senior year has been topsy-turvy with everything that has happened since last summer. He was up and down about college and then decided that he's not ready to go yet. So, he was looking for other options and he tested high enough for the airforce. His aptitude rated him high in mechanical stuff so now he's waiting for a school and probably won't start boot camp until October. I think he's excited and a little nervous.
Yeah, three years would fall under the "extreme" category. Ugh. It's a result of the lovely way that universities and colleges work together to make sure that they all get paid an exorbitant amount to give you a damn diploma. They didn't validate most of my credits from Florida over here, and even went so far as to several times over lump together two or more high level honors classes to compensate for one of their crappy government university classes. They then decided to pick and choose what they wanted to accept from that group, and in the end it was very little indeed the amount of credits they chose to accept. So unless I do summer school, which I doubt I will have the money for, or appeal again to their mercy, I will be facing some more hard time than I should be at my ripe old age of 21.
I do worry about the pictures, even if it's not a big deal I don't want you to think I'm either a.) a liar or b.) a bum, but they will get there eventually, when you least expect them.
My brother got accepted into the associates' degree program in UPR for animal sciences, which at the end of two years would enable him to work as a vet's assistant. He would like to be a vet, or so he says, but, and it's a big but, we are so far unsure of whether or not he would be able to cut it, because you see he has ADHD and that makes him a bit different, and we all know it's possible to live a normal life with that disadvantage, but it makes everything just a bit harder for him. He has trouble with taking notes, paying attention in class, and thinking the same way that everyone else thinks...he always sees things differently than everyone else, sometimes its for better, and sometimes its inconvenient for his integration into stereotypical school/work/family conventions that I guess are not necessary but are always expected by society. So we'll see how that goes when August rolls around, but for now he's enjoying himself working with his hands--he's developing into a budding artisan, and is getting quite good at turning coconut shells into the type of jewelry they sell around here at the artisan fairs, and he loves gardening and such. He's a pretty interesting person, but I worry about his future sometimes. But I'm happy to report that he not only graduated but in the advanced group.
I think if more people thought as clearly as you do and sat down and really mulled over the responsibilities and trappings of marriage, the divorce rate wouldn't be as high because people would really think about who they were marrying and if they were willing to really make an effort to make marriage work. It is a way too adult concept for my liking for now, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one or just suffering from immaturity, although that might attribute to it in some way :)
In the end, I think its best to choose your own path and deal with the consequences, and not take anything so seriously you would get depressed if you weren't at some stereotyped point in your life where you are supposed to be at one age or another, because you have to ask yourself--according to who?
You know, it's really creepy Rian, because over here I look around sometimes and the people I knew as a child that are my age are almost ALL married or about to be married, and it's so weird because then I think--is that where I'm supposed to be in my life, what I'm "supposed" to be doing? Is it okay not to, and not to want to?
Because of the differences in circumstances it's also hard to have anything in common with people my age around here, and therefore hard to make friendships based on that kind of connection.
Your brother is how old that he's joining the air force? He must around the same age as my brother, he's turning eighteen soon. I have the pics of you and him and his friend that one time we all went bowling, along with the others. I'm very sorry that I haven't sent them yet like I promised, but I do have them all organized, I just have to go down to the post office with a couple of bucks, which unfortunately might be a bit, but I will as soon as possible.
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Man, three more years? That sounds pretty extreme. So, what are you thinking of now?
Yes, I'm jealous of her ability too. I'm continually amazed at everything she takes in. Yes, it seems like she's always had a plan. I guess maybe it was the same one. I guess she's a little more reality-based than I want to be. I think I "dream" too much and then what I'm doing doesn't sound as great as what the new thing in my head has become. I dont think Adrienne is a dreamer.
Yea, people getting married is creepy. I've got a couple of friends who are engaged or upset that their boyfriends haven't proposed yet and I keep thinking "You are out of your mind!" Marriage is a really big deal. And I don't think it's something to rush into. No, I don't think that's where your life is supposed to be right now and I don't think it's bad to not want to and I think it's good not to.
However, I'm from the school of thought that feels that you're allowed to (and maybe even supposed to) be selfish and self-centered when you're young. When you get married and have children you loose those privileges. So, you have to accomplish what you can now and settle down when the timing is right and your life is stable.
Personally, I think it's stupid to get married so young. But, I've never been in love, so maybe it's not stupid to those who are. But I think it's such a waste to say, "This is how my life is going to be" when you haven't really experienced life yet. I guess what it comes down to for me is that I don't really feel like an adult yet. I don't think I've experienced enough. And the idea of marriage is such an adult concept to me that I don't think I'm ready for or will be ready for any time soon. Plus, it's not like I'm dating anyone, so who would I marry?
I do think it's harder to make friends with people when you move. Especially when it's to places where every seems to have known each other since kindergarten. But, just relax, eventually friends will come.
I've had some luck with friends. Most are a couple years older than I am, but it's not really a big deal. However the closest friend I've made actually started out as my professor and now she's one of my bosses. Plus she's 57. So, I think that sounds a little odd, but I really like her as a friend. So, maybe you just have to keep an open mind to who will and won't be a good friend.
My brother turned 18 in January. He graduated earlier this month. His senior year has been topsy-turvy with everything that has happened since last summer. He was up and down about college and then decided that he's not ready to go yet. So, he was looking for other options and he tested high enough for the airforce. His aptitude rated him high in mechanical stuff so now he's waiting for a school and probably won't start boot camp until October. I think he's excited and a little nervous.
Don't worry about the picture it's a big deal.
So, what's your brother up to? Did he graduate?
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I do worry about the pictures, even if it's not a big deal I don't want you to think I'm either a.) a liar or b.) a bum, but they will get there eventually, when you least expect them.
My brother got accepted into the associates' degree program in UPR for animal sciences, which at the end of two years would enable him to work as a vet's assistant. He would like to be a vet, or so he says, but, and it's a big but, we are so far unsure of whether or not he would be able to cut it, because you see he has ADHD and that makes him a bit different, and we all know it's possible to live a normal life with that disadvantage, but it makes everything just a bit harder for him. He has trouble with taking notes, paying attention in class, and thinking the same way that everyone else thinks...he always sees things differently than everyone else, sometimes its for better, and sometimes its inconvenient for his integration into stereotypical school/work/family conventions that I guess are not necessary but are always expected by society. So we'll see how that goes when August rolls around, but for now he's enjoying himself working with his hands--he's developing into a budding artisan, and is getting quite good at turning coconut shells into the type of jewelry they sell around here at the artisan fairs, and he loves gardening and such. He's a pretty interesting person, but I worry about his future sometimes. But I'm happy to report that he not only graduated but in the advanced group.
I think if more people thought as clearly as you do and sat down and really mulled over the responsibilities and trappings of marriage, the divorce rate wouldn't be as high because people would really think about who they were marrying and if they were willing to really make an effort to make marriage work. It is a way too adult concept for my liking for now, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one or just suffering from immaturity, although that might attribute to it in some way :)
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