Yet Again
I just got to know about a converstaion between Martin and Jade. I've met Jade once in my life. Once. And she told Martin, "He has the playa look."
I don't know how many times I've gotten this comment and I'm sick of it. Why do I have this look? Even people close to me say that I have this look or that I AM a player. Only people really close to me know that I'm not.
I won't deny that I like female attention. Which guy doesn't? People always tell me about my 'escapades' in clubs or whatever, but what are they really? Dancing with a girl? Hey that's what happens in clubs. That doesn't even happen often for me. Girls go there and dance with guys too. Do I take a random girl at a club back home? Do I have one night stands? That's the hallmark of a player. He screws around and forgets about you and can get a girl the very next day. He leads you on and then drops you in an instant.
Ask anybody who's been clubbing with me. They know that I don't 'have fun' with a girl and not follow up after that. Isn't that what a player does? Have fun and forget about it the next day? I'm just a guy who's looking for someone, albeit not in the best place to look in.
Ask anyone who's dated me in the long term (that'd be only 2 people). They would probably say (I hope) that I'm a nice guy in a relationship, I take care of them, never cheated on them. That's what I am. A nice guy. I'm not trying to blow my own horn here, but I need to disprove all those assumptions you guys have about me. I'm sick of it. Sure a player can be a nice guy too, smooth talker and all that. But he can easily drop you and find another girl. Do you think it's that easy for me?
Do you actually know how many times I've been upset over a girl doing that to me rather than the other way around? Only my real close friends do. A girl can easily forget about me, why? Nobody appreciates me? Nobody cares that I have feelings too? Does a player have feelings? Only horny ones. I get hurt too you know. I'm not devoid of feelings when a girl who I'm trying to be nice to doesn't even tell me nicely that she doesn't like me, but leads me on and drops me just like that. You girls do that too, you just don't like to say it. Have you ever thought how us guys feel? Or do you just assume that we're all the same, just another guy looking for another girl?
Does a player care that much when a girl he likes doesn't give a shit about him? No, he just says "Oh well, I can get another girl just like that tomorrow." I've been hurt before. Pretty badly. So I told myself I would never let myself be hurt by someone that way ever again. Maybe that's why you guys think it's easy for me to go from girl to girl. I'm just looking for someone who gives me those strong feelings, but not hurt me. Even though I tell myself that I won't be hurt by someone again, I still do. Why? It's because each time I get hurt I remember that time. How depressed I was. Then I recover because I don't want to feel like that again.
But I don't like to show that I'm hurt, you know why? Cos' life is too short to be sad and depressed all the time. I'm a happy person, and I like to stay that way.
You wanna know who I am in a relationship? I'll let you know since you all have this preconceived notion anyway. I'm nice. I won't cheat on you. I'll commit. I'll make you laugh when you're sad, and when you're happy I'll make you happier. I'll always be there for you, no matter how busy I am. I'll tell you everything that happens in my sad life, if you wanna hear about it. I'll listen to whatever problems you have and give advice to the best of my ability. If I'm in, I'm in all the way. All I ask is that you appreciate me, and let me know once in a while that you actually care about me. That'd be nice.
So please don't just assume that I'm a player from how I look. Do all average looking people give that horny look? If so anyone who's average and above average looking has that look. So people, don't just fucking assume. Because that's the worst trait that I see in humans. I hate people who just fucking jump to conclusions with no real basis. If you don't know the whole story about me and you jump to conclusions based on hearsay, then fuck you.
I don't know how many times I've gotten this comment and I'm sick of it. Why do I have this look? Even people close to me say that I have this look or that I AM a player. Only people really close to me know that I'm not.
I won't deny that I like female attention. Which guy doesn't? People always tell me about my 'escapades' in clubs or whatever, but what are they really? Dancing with a girl? Hey that's what happens in clubs. That doesn't even happen often for me. Girls go there and dance with guys too. Do I take a random girl at a club back home? Do I have one night stands? That's the hallmark of a player. He screws around and forgets about you and can get a girl the very next day. He leads you on and then drops you in an instant.
Ask anybody who's been clubbing with me. They know that I don't 'have fun' with a girl and not follow up after that. Isn't that what a player does? Have fun and forget about it the next day? I'm just a guy who's looking for someone, albeit not in the best place to look in.
Ask anyone who's dated me in the long term (that'd be only 2 people). They would probably say (I hope) that I'm a nice guy in a relationship, I take care of them, never cheated on them. That's what I am. A nice guy. I'm not trying to blow my own horn here, but I need to disprove all those assumptions you guys have about me. I'm sick of it. Sure a player can be a nice guy too, smooth talker and all that. But he can easily drop you and find another girl. Do you think it's that easy for me?
Do you actually know how many times I've been upset over a girl doing that to me rather than the other way around? Only my real close friends do. A girl can easily forget about me, why? Nobody appreciates me? Nobody cares that I have feelings too? Does a player have feelings? Only horny ones. I get hurt too you know. I'm not devoid of feelings when a girl who I'm trying to be nice to doesn't even tell me nicely that she doesn't like me, but leads me on and drops me just like that. You girls do that too, you just don't like to say it. Have you ever thought how us guys feel? Or do you just assume that we're all the same, just another guy looking for another girl?
Does a player care that much when a girl he likes doesn't give a shit about him? No, he just says "Oh well, I can get another girl just like that tomorrow." I've been hurt before. Pretty badly. So I told myself I would never let myself be hurt by someone that way ever again. Maybe that's why you guys think it's easy for me to go from girl to girl. I'm just looking for someone who gives me those strong feelings, but not hurt me. Even though I tell myself that I won't be hurt by someone again, I still do. Why? It's because each time I get hurt I remember that time. How depressed I was. Then I recover because I don't want to feel like that again.
But I don't like to show that I'm hurt, you know why? Cos' life is too short to be sad and depressed all the time. I'm a happy person, and I like to stay that way.
You wanna know who I am in a relationship? I'll let you know since you all have this preconceived notion anyway. I'm nice. I won't cheat on you. I'll commit. I'll make you laugh when you're sad, and when you're happy I'll make you happier. I'll always be there for you, no matter how busy I am. I'll tell you everything that happens in my sad life, if you wanna hear about it. I'll listen to whatever problems you have and give advice to the best of my ability. If I'm in, I'm in all the way. All I ask is that you appreciate me, and let me know once in a while that you actually care about me. That'd be nice.
So please don't just assume that I'm a player from how I look. Do all average looking people give that horny look? If so anyone who's average and above average looking has that look. So people, don't just fucking assume. Because that's the worst trait that I see in humans. I hate people who just fucking jump to conclusions with no real basis. If you don't know the whole story about me and you jump to conclusions based on hearsay, then fuck you.