RL vs the net
some things have been on my mind recently so I decided to just talk about them...nothing of relevance really...I mean, is it ever of any relevance to anyone. Just stuff. It's a pretty well known fact that people act differently in real life than the do on the internet. That chatty, funny guy that you im'd with for 4 hours the other day is probably the one that sits in the corner at parties sipping his drink. That is if he goes to parties at all. Everyone is guilty of it. Online it's easier to let you natural relaxed state run wild. Everyone tries to be as true to themselves as possible (or rather everyone that I know) but there are always going to be differences. I mean who's to say that shy guy isn't really bursting to tell jokes and keep everyone laughing and he just doesn't feel comfortable in whatever social situation to just be himself. This is usually the case with me. At first anyway.
Well there are some other differences. The reason the net is so popular is because it gives you the chance to meet people that you normally wouldn't get the chance to. People that don't live near you or people that run in different social circles. It allows people to share common bonds and learn different interests from the comfort of their own home. For example, livejournal...would you really sit around listening to people tell you the details of their everyday life. It's easy to hit a random search and read about someone's weekend just for the hell of it, but if put in a situation where some random assed stranger just walked up to you and started telling you about the party they went to with the people that they know that you don't and how the events progressed, wouldn't you be inclined to back away slowly until you felt safe enough to just turn around and run? Or on the other hand, would you just walk up to some random person and start telling them what went on with you at work? Well, no, probably not. Though some people on my flist may. But that's one of the ways that the internet rocks.
Okay, here's where we get to the point (if there is one)...
About a year ago, maybe more, I joined a bunch of dating sites. Was I desperate to meet someone, well, maybe...but it's more like I wanted to see WHO would want to meet me? I mean, I don't regularly have all that much luck in real life. Or at least I wasn't at the time. (It's amazing all the attention you can get when you LEAVE your house.)
Anyhow...I joined a bunch of sites. And for a while there, men were coming out of the woodwork. It started with the Marine. A man that I never would have had the nerve to speak to in person. Actually, I can't perceive any situation where I ever would have run in to him IRL, but bygones. I saw him on the site and it didn't seem so bad to be rejected from afar so I spoke to him. And what do you know, he spoke back. We spoke back and forth for months. It was a lot of fun. I filled the need that I had in my life to communicate with a male person over the age of 4. I love to talk so it was all good. And through the glory of the net I found someone that was on my level with whom to talk. I thought I'd found the answer. Online I can talk to the ones that would normally intimidate me and ignore the ones that always feel the need to try to talk to me. (That's harder to do in person, but I've developed a pretty good stone face.)
Then he delete his account. Like in the middle of a conversation. Just left. Who does that? If we were sitting around talking face to face, would he just get up and walk away? Probably not, but then I'd never have spoken to him face to face. (By the way, also by merit of internet, I found out that he was actually gay...but that another story)
Okay...so here's where the problem is...now people just have the balls to say anything online. I mean, for real, there's not hey how do you do? What are your interests? What do you like to eat? No, now it's just: let me send you pictures of my penis. Can I see your tits? How do you like to have sex?
Dude, do I know you?
Did you not JUST IM me like 2 minutes ago. WTF?!?!
I'm not saying that two completely consensual adults can't spice it up a little if they have an understanding about it, but don't just come at me like that
Things I never want to read ever again in life:
Do you have more pics?
Do you have a webcam?
Can I see you on the cam?
Can you come see me?
Can I come see you?
Really people...what ever happened to conversation?
And if it isn't the perverts, it's the guys that have decided they are interested in marrying me after 10 minutes of small talk. I want to get married too...but what the hell is that?
I don't know...maybe it's just me, but I think the entire flipping world has lost their ever loving minds.
Well there are some other differences. The reason the net is so popular is because it gives you the chance to meet people that you normally wouldn't get the chance to. People that don't live near you or people that run in different social circles. It allows people to share common bonds and learn different interests from the comfort of their own home. For example, livejournal...would you really sit around listening to people tell you the details of their everyday life. It's easy to hit a random search and read about someone's weekend just for the hell of it, but if put in a situation where some random assed stranger just walked up to you and started telling you about the party they went to with the people that they know that you don't and how the events progressed, wouldn't you be inclined to back away slowly until you felt safe enough to just turn around and run? Or on the other hand, would you just walk up to some random person and start telling them what went on with you at work? Well, no, probably not. Though some people on my flist may. But that's one of the ways that the internet rocks.
Okay, here's where we get to the point (if there is one)...
About a year ago, maybe more, I joined a bunch of dating sites. Was I desperate to meet someone, well, maybe...but it's more like I wanted to see WHO would want to meet me? I mean, I don't regularly have all that much luck in real life. Or at least I wasn't at the time. (It's amazing all the attention you can get when you LEAVE your house.)
Anyhow...I joined a bunch of sites. And for a while there, men were coming out of the woodwork. It started with the Marine. A man that I never would have had the nerve to speak to in person. Actually, I can't perceive any situation where I ever would have run in to him IRL, but bygones. I saw him on the site and it didn't seem so bad to be rejected from afar so I spoke to him. And what do you know, he spoke back. We spoke back and forth for months. It was a lot of fun. I filled the need that I had in my life to communicate with a male person over the age of 4. I love to talk so it was all good. And through the glory of the net I found someone that was on my level with whom to talk. I thought I'd found the answer. Online I can talk to the ones that would normally intimidate me and ignore the ones that always feel the need to try to talk to me. (That's harder to do in person, but I've developed a pretty good stone face.)
Then he delete his account. Like in the middle of a conversation. Just left. Who does that? If we were sitting around talking face to face, would he just get up and walk away? Probably not, but then I'd never have spoken to him face to face. (By the way, also by merit of internet, I found out that he was actually gay...but that another story)
Okay...so here's where the problem is...now people just have the balls to say anything online. I mean, for real, there's not hey how do you do? What are your interests? What do you like to eat? No, now it's just: let me send you pictures of my penis. Can I see your tits? How do you like to have sex?
Dude, do I know you?
Did you not JUST IM me like 2 minutes ago. WTF?!?!
I'm not saying that two completely consensual adults can't spice it up a little if they have an understanding about it, but don't just come at me like that
Things I never want to read ever again in life:
Do you have more pics?
Do you have a webcam?
Can I see you on the cam?
Can you come see me?
Can I come see you?
Really people...what ever happened to conversation?
And if it isn't the perverts, it's the guys that have decided they are interested in marrying me after 10 minutes of small talk. I want to get married too...but what the hell is that?
I don't know...maybe it's just me, but I think the entire flipping world has lost their ever loving minds.