Ahhhh haaaaa moment.....
Stealing from an great author's blog I read.....
"Decide on your stress tolerance early. Someone once told me that everyone has a certain tolerance for stress, and even if they arrange their lives to hit below that threshold, they will create shit to stress over until they hit the level they’re geared toward. “You don’t lower your stress,” he continued, staring into his bourbon. “You lower your tolerance.”
This speaks to me. The problem with stress is it's external. I have no control over it unless I'm willing to cut out huge chunks of my life (work,people). I'm not willing.
I have to work and the few folk I allow into my life I'd like to keep no matter how much stress comes with it. So now at least I can see an option I'm willing to live with. I just have to figure how I go about changing a tolerance level that appears to touch the moon:)