Am I the only one who every few nights gets in this cycle of AAAARG WHO THE FUCK AM I WHY DON'T I HAVE ANY FRIENDS WHAT THE FUCK AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE
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i was like you, until my boyfriend broke up with me and all of a sudden i had to face the nasty truth that i had no friends... nothing will motivate you to go out and be social more than putting all your eggs in one basket and then losing the basket
i think it's hella hella hella important to have a life outside of boyfriends. it's so easy to just hang out with your beau because it's easy and comfortable and consistent, but you really can learn a lot and be a much happier person by making friends and hanging out with other people. when tyler and i broke up, i set out to find new friends to fill the void in my life and i ended up finding an amazing group of people, and i am soooo much happier now. i'm not just relying on one person anymore... i have a whole bunch of people in my life now!! i never realized it while we were together, but i was so super super dependent on him and our relationship and it wasn't good for me.
new people and new situations are scary, but in my opinion, it's totally worth it. if you're feeling yucky about your life right now, i think you should really try to make a positive change. no one's gonna bust down your door-- it's up to you to demand more of yourself. i totally know you can do it. next time someone wants to hang out, don't hide! think of it as an adventure, or at the very least a learning experience and a change of scenery.
it's all about balance... discontent happens when things are out of whack, when you focus too much of your time and energy on too few things.
how's brian doing? i haven't talked to him in dayssss because he never calls me back that jerk and i am glad to hear that he is still alive!! what are you guys up to these days?
well, the last person who wanted to see me was cate and i failed her and it was stupid and i miss her so much. ><
other than that, every time i meet new people i absolutely hate them. which doesn't even feel like me at all but i can't help it, and then i decide there's just something wrong with me and i just can't like people anymore or something.
BUT brian is good, despite never answering his phones at all, i know exactly what you mean -_- we're the same as ever, but something about living together with no car really brings out the antisocial wow players in us.
also, THANK YOU for the essay, i feel silly when no one responds, and i appreciate the thought you put into it, i'm just so afraid of people these days. i'm glad you're doing better <3
well, cate will be back and likely still want to see you :) you will get another chance!!
i understand about disliking the new people you meet... but the truth is that sooner or later you're bound to find someone you like! it helps to try to suspend your judgment of them until you know them better-- jumping to conclusions might cause you to shut out some good people... so you gotta be open to letting new people into your life
holy moly, you guys are living together?? where?? is it just the two of you?? that's adorable
yeahhhh wow is bad news. my roommate just quit. :p
i think it's hella hella hella important to have a life outside of boyfriends. it's so easy to just hang out with your beau because it's easy and comfortable and consistent, but you really can learn a lot and be a much happier person by making friends and hanging out with other people. when tyler and i broke up, i set out to find new friends to fill the void in my life and i ended up finding an amazing group of people, and i am soooo much happier now. i'm not just relying on one person anymore... i have a whole bunch of people in my life now!! i never realized it while we were together, but i was so super super dependent on him and our relationship and it wasn't good for me.
new people and new situations are scary, but in my opinion, it's totally worth it. if you're feeling yucky about your life right now, i think you should really try to make a positive change. no one's gonna bust down your door-- it's up to you to demand more of yourself. i totally know you can do it. next time someone wants to hang out, don't hide! think of it as an adventure, or at the very least a learning experience and a change of scenery.
it's all about balance... discontent happens when things are out of whack, when you focus too much of your time and energy on too few things.
how's brian doing? i haven't talked to him in dayssss because he never calls me back that jerk and i am glad to hear that he is still alive!! what are you guys up to these days?
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other than that, every time i meet new people i absolutely hate them. which doesn't even feel like me at all but i can't help it, and then i decide there's just something wrong with me and i just can't like people anymore or something.
BUT brian is good, despite never answering his phones at all, i know exactly what you mean -_- we're the same as ever, but something about living together with no car really brings out the antisocial wow players in us.
also, THANK YOU for the essay, i feel silly when no one responds, and i appreciate the thought you put into it, i'm just so afraid of people these days. i'm glad you're doing better <3
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i understand about disliking the new people you meet... but the truth is that sooner or later you're bound to find someone you like! it helps to try to suspend your judgment of them until you know them better-- jumping to conclusions might cause you to shut out some good people... so you gotta be open to letting new people into your life
holy moly, you guys are living together?? where?? is it just the two of you?? that's adorable
yeahhhh wow is bad news. my roommate just quit. :p
tell brian i say hi!
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