(Not quite) danger stranger.

[retro_geek]

When strangers approach you in public- specifically, when you are a female travelling by herself and the stranger in question is a man a lot bigger than you are- how polite do you feel compelled to be, and how long before you can reasonably tell them to bog off? Travelling to a friend's gig the other night, I boarded the tube at Totteridge&

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[xandratheblue]

No, he wasn't being friendly. His best option was that he was hitting on you, worst option was that he was hoping to groom you for semi-consensual sex. You had ever right to be scared, and I wish I knew what behaviour to exhibit when you want a man to fuck off and GO AWAY, but whether or not he saw you as a cute girl he wanted to get to know better or an easy target, he had NO RIGHT to keep talking to you when you made it clear you didn't want to talk and had NO RIGHT to keep staring.

Frankly, any guy who invades your personal space and forces you into awkward company when it's just the two of you in an enclosed space deserves to have his confidence knocked, because it's an incredibly inappropriate way to chat someone up, regardless of what country you come from.

Then again, I'm the kind of person who made the bouncer at No Fiction talk to a guy who had, in reality, just grabbed my arm, but made me feel really uncomfortable because he had done so.

I wish I could give you any tips, or any certain lengths of time, but I think that he got off lightly with you and you didn't need to be so polite.