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You will not be a part of my life "from time to time" regardless of whether you and him are together or not. I'll make that quite clear to you now, as I've also told him. Maybe I am being stubborn but right now I'm not prepared to forget the past and accept you as any subsequent part of my life. My stance may change in the future if you are still on the scene but that's how I feel at present. Going on my experience of you (your words from your blogs), you're not the kind of influence I would want for my child. You have brought this on yourself. You insinuated the baby be aborted only a matter of months back! Remember? Not for the child's or my sake but for your own, evidently. A boyfriend with a baby to someone else doesn't fit into your agenda....into your 'fairy tale & happy ending', does it? You criticised my ability as a parent before my child has even been born and you suggested that I was having the child to fill a void in my "lonely existence" comparing me to "mothers who have children just to get a council house". What does that say about you? You tell me that what you and him do has nothing to do with me and I won't dispute that so why then do you think you have the right to stand on your soap box about my pregnancy when in actual fact it has absolutely f*ck all to do with you?
I let go a good while back. He and I will not be getting back together. That doesn't mean to say that I'm not saddened by his attitude or behaviour or by the way things have worked out (who would desire to bring up their child single handed?). You are both incredibly selfish to harp on about your relationship, or maybe-relationship, or whatever the hell it is at this time. As you say, there is something more important going on just now. I've realised that from the outset so I suggest you softly whisper the words to yourself from time to time in order that you can practice what you preach. In my opinion he should want to put his self-indulgences on the back burner until the safe arrival of his child. He should show the mother support and encouragement as a friend in the final lap of her pregnancy - not put her down or bring his plans for future relationships with other women into the equation at this stage in her pregnancy. Woman to woman, if you were carrying your ex partner's baby can you honestly say you'd feel happy and comfortable if he told you he plans to get back together with a previous girlfriend (who had interfered in your relationship from day one and who had publicly posted nasty, unreasoned and immoral things about you and your unborn child) whilst you were expecting to give birth in a matter of weeks? Try to view the situation from my perspective, assuming you can remove yourself from your own bubble for a few minutes.
I let go a good while back. He and I will not be getting back together. That doesn't mean to say that I'm not saddened by his attitude or behaviour or by the way things have worked out (who would desire to bring up their child single handed?). You are both incredibly selfish to harp on about your relationship, or maybe-relationship, or whatever the hell it is at this time. As you say, there is something more important going on just now. I've realised that from the outset so I suggest you softly whisper the words to yourself from time to time in order that you can practice what you preach. In my opinion he should want to put his self-indulgences on the back burner until the safe arrival of his child. He should show the mother support and encouragement as a friend in the final lap of her pregnancy - not put her down or bring his plans for future relationships with other women into the equation at this stage in her pregnancy. Woman to woman, if you were carrying your ex partner's baby can you honestly say you'd feel happy and comfortable if he told you he plans to get back together with a previous girlfriend (who had interfered in your relationship from day one and who had publicly posted nasty, unreasoned and immoral things about you and your unborn child) whilst you were expecting to give birth in a matter of weeks? Try to view the situation from my perspective, assuming you can remove yourself from your own bubble for a few minutes.