"There is something which makes us want to be in love. Now, this is a hard argument to make, I know. But I would argue that people are, like I said, initially drawn to love until something traumatic or life-changing causes them to rethink their position. This could lead them to conclude that they should no longer be monogamous, and to give up on love."
wanting to be in love...something i talked to bill about. i think "love" is just being reaffirmed intellectually, emotionally and physically by someone you find attractive. someone who makes you feel competent, emotionally stable and enjoys sex with you. those are the 3 key elements in a relationship...the things we "need". as to where that come froms, i dont know. if one is in love or has been in love, you begin to become dependent on those endorphins, and if they are taken away, its like an addict going through withdrawl. See what the bleep do we know, the section on love.
"Love is such a heavy word and I think people use it too readily. Is love just a chemical inside our bodies, or did God make it? No one knows for sure, and that’s the problem."
well, no one knows for sure if "God" made it, but it is a chemical. that is true, unless you dont believe the scientific method.
"True love is more than a sexual attraction. It is a mental and emotional one as well."
i.e., a chemical connection, a balance between likes and dislikes that releases endorphins in our brains that we then become attatched to thanks to our senses...sights sounds smells taste touch...all these make up our memories which form our bonds of "love".
i dont think there is much of a difference between lust and love, in the true sense. perhaps the clearest answer would be with "love" you have a deeper chemical bond thanks to having a more enjoyable time...i.e., get along better similar interests, etc. stimulation to more than the penis, where as lust you only find the connection on the sexual level.
as for monogamy, i think what i refer to more is... this ideal of eternal love, marriage until death...i think monogamy can truly last only a few years, a decent long term relationship. there comes a point where you cant learn anything new about someone, and sex has reached a pinnacle and cant go anywhere from there, all experiences begin to dry up of pleasure...people get tired of each other after a while. i dont think you can have that full connection and bond for your entire life.
true fact: "love" has nothing to do with the heart.
wanting to be in love...something i talked to bill about. i think "love" is just being reaffirmed intellectually, emotionally and physically by someone you find attractive. someone who makes you feel competent, emotionally stable and enjoys sex with you. those are the 3 key elements in a relationship...the things we "need". as to where that come froms, i dont know. if one is in love or has been in love, you begin to become dependent on those endorphins, and if they are taken away, its like an addict going through withdrawl. See what the bleep do we know, the section on love.
"Love is such a heavy word and I think people use it too readily. Is love just a chemical inside our bodies, or did God make it? No one knows for sure, and that’s the problem."
well, no one knows for sure if "God" made it, but it is a chemical. that is true, unless you dont believe the scientific method.
"True love is more than a sexual attraction. It is a mental and emotional one as well."
i.e., a chemical connection, a balance between likes and dislikes that releases endorphins in our brains that we then become attatched to thanks to our senses...sights sounds smells taste touch...all these make up our memories which form our bonds of "love".
i dont think there is much of a difference between lust and love, in the true sense. perhaps the clearest answer would be with "love" you have a deeper chemical bond thanks to having a more enjoyable time...i.e., get along better similar interests, etc. stimulation to more than the penis, where as lust you only find the connection on the sexual level.
as for monogamy, i think what i refer to more is... this ideal of eternal love, marriage until death...i think monogamy can truly last only a few years, a decent long term relationship. there comes a point where you cant learn anything new about someone, and sex has reached a pinnacle and cant go anywhere from there, all experiences begin to dry up of pleasure...people get tired of each other after a while. i dont think you can have that full connection and bond for your entire life.
true fact: "love" has nothing to do with the heart.
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