Mawwaige
http://www.nytimes.com/2013/01/20/fashion/labels-of-married-life-in-a-new-light-modern-love.html?src=recg
This article started out making me feel, well, legitimized, or at least not alone - the whole notion of being a label, and particularly that label, has made my skin crawl for thirty-mumble years. It took a long time for me to not visibly bristle when people assume The Honey is my 'better half' or duly wedded or however they phrase it. I've always assumed that it was a fine institution for those who want it, but I wasn't interested in being institutionalized. This hasn't changed with the rounds of same-sex folks hitching up. I'm happy for them, and the article linked above shows the author coming to grips with the terms as endearments.
But then, she got over the baggage around the words to actually have the ceremony a decade ago. The Honey and I have been together twice that, and I haven't.
This article started out making me feel, well, legitimized, or at least not alone - the whole notion of being a label, and particularly that label, has made my skin crawl for thirty-mumble years. It took a long time for me to not visibly bristle when people assume The Honey is my 'better half' or duly wedded or however they phrase it. I've always assumed that it was a fine institution for those who want it, but I wasn't interested in being institutionalized. This hasn't changed with the rounds of same-sex folks hitching up. I'm happy for them, and the article linked above shows the author coming to grips with the terms as endearments.
But then, she got over the baggage around the words to actually have the ceremony a decade ago. The Honey and I have been together twice that, and I haven't.